The reasons a parent manipulates his/her offspring are often subtle and complex. However, explanations may include
– the parent is narcissistic
– the parent has a grandiose self-view (often linked to above)
– the parent has low self-esteem/feelings of inadequacy and so abuses the power they do have as a form of overcompensation for own shortcomings
– failure of the parent to view the child as a separate, distinct and unique individual, but, rather, to view him/her as an ‘extension of themselves’ so that the child feels responsible for the parent and becomes ‘enmeshed’ in the relationship.