You can’t help those who won’t help themselves
Avoiding becoming enmeshed in other people’s problems is difficult. Successfully doing so requires willpower, discipline, and an understanding of human nature. The important point to remember is that you can only help those who are willing to help themselves.
Typically, people with a victim mentality are usually unwilling to help themselves. This is due to the fact that they continually blame other people or circumstances for their situation. Since they refuse to take responsibility for their position, they don’t believe there is any point taking corrective action.