Everyone is the victim of something. But not everyone chooses to behave with a victim mentality.
Those who do choose to be a victim, end up living angrier, more selfish, and more entitled lives than those who refuse to be a victim.
A Stanford University study reported in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that playing the victim leads to a sense of entitlement and to selfish behavior.
In one experiment, participants who were asked to remember a time when their lives were unfair were more likely to refuse helping someone complete a simple task than participants who were asked to recall a time when they were bored.
The same paper went on to review a collection of studies showing that all the things that make someone feel wronged, including disrespect, unequal treatment, disproportional income, diagnosis of a disease, and an unhappy childhood, make people feel more entitled to special treatment. And if they don’t get that special treatment—watch out.
They will lash out in anger, guilt you into obligation, and reverse bully you until you do what they want.