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Adult children of narcissists

The child’s brain

 A young child learns from what they see and hear.

Lacking critical thinking skills, a kindergartener exposed to violence may walk into a classroom and – without a moment’s hesitation – whack some poor classmate in the face. When asked “Why?,” the kid may say something along the lines of, “I say my (mom/dad/brother/sister) do it.”

The extremely impressionable nature of a child’s mind can be explained using just two facts:

(1) A child’s brain is 80 percent formed by the time they’re four.

(2) 95 percent of our subconscious is programmed by age six.

Most of the who, what, when, where, why decisions – even well into our adult years –  are almost entirely influenced by this subconscious information.

In other words, the“forgotten years” can profoundly influence who we become. Sadly, this is terrible news for children of narcissistic parents.

Now Imagine…

Being the child of one (sometimes two) people who:

– Believes they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by (other) special or high-status people.

–  Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited beauty, power, or success.

– Always needs to be the center of attention.

– Has an extreme sense of entitlement.

– Exploits and takes advantage of others to achieve their ends.

– Has a complete lack of empathy.

– Is excessively arrogant and self-righteous.

(The first question that comes to this writer’s mind is “Why in the hell would such a person procreate in the first place?”)


Let’s discuss some common thoughts and behaviors of those who had the misfortunate of being raised by a narcissist.



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