Posted in Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Personality Disorder, R&R, Resilience, Resourcefulness and Resilience

Rule no 8. Christmas – R&R

Yes R&R can mean  “rest and recuperation” but my therapist has given me another meaning for R&R:-

Resourcefulness and Resilience

Resourcefulness to find a way to deal with your situation using any of the rules we have already put in place for a healthy Christmas and a good start to a New Year:-

Rules for a healthy Christmas

Rule no 2. A healthy Christmas – Detox

Rule no 3. Don’t be alone on Christmas day

Rule no 4. Christmas – Therapy

Rule no 5. Christmas – Exercise

Rule No 6. Christmas – Mindfulness

Rule No 7. Christmas – Meditation


All About Resilience

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.


Try this: Spend a few minutes each day creating a movie in your mind of how you achieved an difficult ambition you had always wanted to do, in my case “Pilgrimage of Compostela” or felt excited again after a big breakup. These can be real obstacles you are trying to overcome, or imaginary moments of triumph and success. You might think of it as daydreaming, but therapists call it active visualization and imagining. They are common components of the most successful therapies for overcoming anxiety, depression, and trauma, and these strategies can significantly increase your ability to tolerate and handle stressors. Put simply: If you can succeed in your mind, you are more likely to recover from setbacks and thrive in life.



Living the dream in SW France-Retired Love Swimming, Rambling, Labrador's, Pilates, Photography, Astronomy, Reiki, Travelling. Currently studying Psychology, and member of NAAP. I believe in truth, honesty, karma and integrity! KEEPING IT REAL - No one likes someone who lies and lives a different life on social media than they do in real life. ≧◔◡◔≦

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