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To whom do our grandchildren turn to for help?

Who will help them understand this heartbreak and chaos! Pediatricians must be made aware. They must ask questions. The alienation of loving and supportive grandparents will have a negative impact on our grandchildren for the rest of their lives; and, alienation is often generational.

Grandparent Alienation is considered by experts to be a severe form of child abuse and elder abuse. Abuse is never acceptable. Abuse is NOT OK. The courts refuse to intervene on our behalf. They turn a blind eye to the damage that is being done to our grandchildren by denying them our love, and our presence in their lives. AGA is now actively participating in Grandparents Rights legislation in the State of Florida and assists other states and countries. We must give the judges the tools to help grandparents and grandchildren. Continue reading “To whom do our grandchildren turn to for help?”

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Powerless to Parent; Powerless to Protect

The felt sense of powerless experienced by parents extended beyond the sociolegal system. Parents expressed their helplessness in protecting their children from immediate and enduring mental ill health and difficulties with social relationships and functioning.
«I fear terribly for the psychological consequences to him when he does realise what has actually happened here.
 I am very worried that his personal relationships will suffer because he’s been taught to hate women» [P1].
«I am so fearful of the long term mental health damage my children will have due to one moment they had a loving father, the next they are told he is a danger and they should hate him as their mother does» [P8].
«Knowing your own children have been so deeply emotionally abused and there is nothing you can do about it is extremely painful to live with» [P39]. «I blame myself for not being strong minded enough. I badly want to provide for him, be there for him, show him life skills, show him love of a Father and cre ate happiness for him» [P36]

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Results and Discussion- Sue Whitcombe

The six emergent factors in the Q analysis  portrayed pictures of alienated parents at various stages of their journey. These are fully explored else- where (Whitcombe, 2016a) but included in brief here to aid discussion. The factors are:
 Narrative A
 moving on, reluctantly accepting the loss of a child despite ongoing fears for their child’s psychological  well-being
 Narrative B
 a confident, concerned parent, feeling powerless in a biased, abusive system
 Narrative C
 psychological distress, guilt and an uncertain future
 Narrative D
 a worried parent struggling to maintain a connection
Narrative E
optimistic, despite emotional distress and their child’s barriers
 Narrative F
 measured, yet hopeful, acceptance based on an under- standing of the process.
A great deal of consensus between the 54 participants in the study was evident from the raw Q sort data; there was a dominance of five of the Q set statements in the extremes of the individual Q sorts.
Statement 32:
the legal process or Cafcass further alienated or dam- aged my child
(agreed by 39 participants, 14 rating this response as +4 or +5)
Statement 29:
 I feel as though the authorities or legal system are fair, unbiased or supportive of me
(disagreed with by 48 participants, 25 rating this response as -4 or -5)
Statement 34:
 I found the expert witness, Cafcass or police to be biased by information given by my former partner
(agreed with by 39 participants, 12 rating this response as +4 or +5)
Statement 80:
 My ex-partner wants to delete me/my family from my child’s life
(agreed with by 45 participants, 21 rating this response as +4 or +5)
Statement 7:
 I have no concerns about my child’s mental/emotional/psychological health
(disagreed with by 46 participants, 32 rating this as -4 or -5).

Continue reading “Results and Discussion- Sue Whitcombe”

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14 Myths You Shouldn’t Believe About Psychopaths and Sociopaths

You’ve likely thrown around the words “psychopath” and “sociopath” once or twice — maybe to describe your crazy ex or that college roommate who stole your belongings on move-out day. Whether or not the less-than-desirable people in your life really fit the bill is up for debate, but Ed Gein and Jeffrey Dahmer are certainly two memorable cases. Not everyone with this personality disorder is a mass murderer, though. The Atlantic notes neuroscientist and family man James Fallon underwent a brain scan and was shocked to find his brain mirrors that of a psychopath’s. And as far as we know, he’s doing just fine.

These mental disorders can be seriously blown out of proportion by the media, so it’s important to get the facts straight. First, knowing the distinction between psychopathy and sociopathy is a must.

Psychopath or sociopath?

Psychopathy and sociopathy are closely related, but WebMD says there are some differences. They’re both personality disorders — that’s the important thing to remember. Those who are dealing with these disorders typically struggle with empathy and conscience. A psychopath, on one hand, might hurt or steal from you without thinking twice. A sociopath, on the other, might do the same but feel remorse. Not enough to stop them from stealing in the first place, unfortunately.

1. Sociopaths and psychopaths are psychotic

2. They are common disorders

3. Psychopaths and sociopaths can’t fall in love

4. Psychopathy is the same as insanity

Continue reading “14 Myths You Shouldn’t Believe About Psychopaths and Sociopaths”

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Psychopaths lie.

While that’s typically not the only characteristic of someone with antisocial personality disorder — the umbrella term the National Institutes for Health uses to define psychopathy — it is recognised globally as a major red flag. Continue reading “Psychopaths lie.”

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The Awe-inspiring Online Community of Parental Alienation

Lee Serpa Azevado

The online presence of those affected by parental alienation is both immense and awe-inspiring. In terms of statistics, typing ‘parental alienation’ in to Google presents one with 1,170,000 results. #PAS on Twitter reaches an audience of 2,107,036 twitter accounts. There is an incalculable number of alienated parents across the developed world passionately campaigning, advocating and pleading online for some kind of social change that will effectively challenge the abuse that is parental alienation.

“The outpouring of support for one another online is beyond words.”

I myself have now become an active participant of this online community that I previously never knew existed. Like any other topic online, there is a communal sharing of experience, ideas and knowledge. However the outpouring of support for one another online is beyond words. Such support for one another is invaluable, crucial and without doubt in some cases life-saving.

An alienated parent recently tweeted his comparison of the evil…

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A little plan to raise awareness of parental alienation. Help needed!

Lee Serpa Azevado

Like many other alienated parents I have taken to the internet to vent, give and receive support and ultimately attempt to raise awareness of parental alienation.

And also like many other alienated parents out there I have a blog. This humble little blog of mine is simply a cathartic narrative of my journey of fighting parental alienation.

As somewhat of a subconscious distraction technique of missing my children I am very often thinking of ways to raise further awareness of parental alienation.

A short while ago, while in conversation on Twitter, @ColinWardWriter introduced me to a website called

“ reported 60 million unique monthly readers in May this year.”

Now, by no means is this a shameless attempt at promoting my medium publication and writers profile. My point is that medium is a place for writers and bloggers. Anyone can create a profile and, or a publication. It is…

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Powerless to parent; powerless to protect: The experiences of alienated parents in the UK – Sue Whitcombe

Parental alienation has been a contentious concept in the UK for the ma- jority of the last thirty years (Whitcombe, 2014) with Hobbs (2006) sug-gesting a range of perspectives from confusion to total denial of its exist-ence. Psychiatrist Kirk Weir (Weir & Sturge, 2006) acknowledged the con-troversy over Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), though confirmed the  presence of the characteristic eight behavioural signs in a child in “scores of cases” in which he conducted assessments for the Court. In discussing the apparent preference for the term “implacable hostility” to PAS in the UK,  Weir proffered the preferred term “alienation”.
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Social Media and Potential for Violence in Adolescents


In June 2014, numerous news outlets told the chilling story of two Wisconsin preteens who lured their best friend into the woods and stabbed her 19 times. When asked why, these girls reported that the internet meme, “Slenderman,” drove them to do it. Following this horrific crime, the typical questions of “how” and “why” were asked, but soon came another question: was the internet, in fact, an accomplice? Had their online activity led to a blurring of fiction and reality in such a way that had allowed them to commit attempted murder?

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New Insights on Substance Use Disorders