Sometimes people attempt to meet the needs of family members, employers, children, friends, or society in general before meeting their own needs, and working to please and care for others often interferes with one’s self-care routine and can take a toll on a person’s well-being. People who have dependent personalities or experience depression, codependency, or anxiety may also fail to meet their self-care needs. However, self-care is often considered to be an important aspect of resiliency: those who are able to adequately meet their needs are often able to better cope with everyday stressors.
Because people who are able to meet their own physical and emotional needs are typically better equipped to care for others, it may be especially important for parents of children with behavioral challenges or other special needs to maintain a self-care routine. Fatigue, stress, anxiety, and worry may have a significant effect on well-being, but attending to physical and emotional needs may help prevent or reduce the effects of these issues, foster self-compassion, and leave parents more able to meet the needs of their child.
Self-care behaviors may also help mental health professionals and other health care providers avoid compassion fatigue, which can often result from work in a high-stress or traumatic environment and may lead to self-doubt, self-blame, and ethical or legal complications. Continue reading “Why Self-Care Is Important”
Self-care is vital for well-being, and no group knows that better than clinicians. Not only do they help clients learn to take better care of themselves, but they also need to make self-care a priority — especially given the emotional strains inherent in their profession. ‘As a psychotherapist I know that I have a limit on how much suffering and sadness I can hold and my after-work time needs to provide pleasant, soothing, joyful energy to replenish myself from being empathic with my patients’ struggles,’ said Roseann Adams, LCSW, a psychotherapist with an independent practice in Chicago. Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D, a psychotherapist and author of 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD: How to Overcome Chronic Distraction & Accomplish Your Goals, views self-care as preventative — as her defense against burnout. Ari Tuckman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and author of Understand Your Brain, Get More Done: The ADHD Executive Functions Workbook, believes that knowing yourself is key to
Source: How Clinicians Practice Self-Care & 9 Tips for Readers
- Belittle, criticize, condemn, and judge others
- Make nasty comments, ridicule, mock, and bully people
- Are hostile and angry to “loved” ones
- Use passive-aggressive comments and behaviour instead of honest communication
- Cut into the character and personality of others (as opposed to voicing legitimate complaints and concerns about a relationship or person)
- Shut down, storm away in anger, or give the silent treatment in relationships
- Refuse to admit they’re wrong
- Are negative and depressing to be with
- Are physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, financially abusive
- Lie, cheat, steal, and break all the 10 Commandments!
Those are the obvious signs of toxic people. The funny thing is that even though we know someone is toxic, unhealthy, and not good for us…sometimes we stay with them. Lots of us stay in toxic environments – whether it’s a marriage, a job, a family, or even a community.
If you’re struggling to break free from someone who is beyond toxic, read 5 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship.
Continue reading “The most common signs of toxic people”
- Be empowered by your motives.
- Understand why they’re seeing what they see in you.
- They might get worse before they leave you alone.
- Be clear about your boundaries.
- You don’t have to help them through every crisis.
- You don’t need to explain.
- Don’t judge.
- Own your strengths and your weaknesses.
- Don’t expect change.
- Choose your battles wisely.
- Don’t be the victim.
- Focus on the solution rather than the problem.
- Surround yourself with people who will give as much as you do.
- Forgive – but don’t forget.
- Understand the cycle.
- You don’t need their approval. You really don’t.
Continue reading “Toxic People: Powerful Ways to Deal With Them”
- Way of encouraging a person to meet their own needs and desires. 2. Process where aperson unwittingly aids a person’s negative behaviour. See enabler.
ENABLING: “Joe was enabling Lyn to keep up her pathological behaviour.”
What is ENABLING? definition of ENABLING (Psychology Dictionary)
There are now 65.3 million people displaced from their homes worldwide, the United Nations reports. It’s an all-time high: likely the largest population of refugees and asylum seekers in human history. Continue reading “A psychologist explains the limits of human compassion”
In a cultural age that’s decidedly pro-positivity, the pressure to suppress or camouflage negative feelings is real.
However, psychological studies have shown that acceptance of those negative emotions is the more reliable route to regaining and maintaining peace of mind. Whether practiced through the lens of ancient Eastern philosophies, or in increasingly popular forms of treatment like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy, acceptance of one’s dark emotions is now backed by a body of evidence connecting the habit to better emotionalresilience, and fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety. Continue reading “Accepting your darkest emotions is the key to psychological health”