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Why Gaslighters Accuse You of Gaslighting

Gaslighters will accuse others of actions — even when there is direct evidence that they are engaging in those same behaviors.  So why do gaslighters do this?  They are doing pre-emptive strikes and/or are projecting.

The gaslighter uses these tactics in order to get “revenge” or gain control over you.  Gaslighting tactics include:

  • Blatantly lying.
  • Splitting — pitting you against a friend or family member.
  • Working to align others against you.
  • Telling others that you are crazy, unstable, or manipulative.
  • Lying about things they said and did, even though you swear those things happened.
  • Telling you they don’t like your family and friends — but for vague reasons.

Many gaslighters:

  • Cheat in relationships, yet they accuse their victims of cheating.
  • Accuse their victims of being addicts, when they are the true addicts.
  • Accuse their victims of manipulation, when they are the ones who manipulate.



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