Sometimes it is easier to define letting go in the negative. That is, defining what it is not, rather than what it is. Sometimes it is also easier to define it in relation to giving up. Here I will try to define it on its own terms. Letting go means releasing yourself from the attachment you have with the actual fighting process of attempting to keep a relationship going with your children, once you realise that this process of fighting constantly for the children to have you in their lives becomes counter-productive. That is, you end up doing more harm to the children by attempting to stay in their lives than the alienating parent has done by removing you.