Once an abusive person has your attention and empathy, the brainwashing can begin. Abusers tend to use certain coercion techniques to bring you under greater control. We’ll discuss them below. Before that, it’s important to know that your abuser didn’t have to learn these techniques from a book, at school, or during military training. Most likely, your abuser
- observed control techniques as a child, or
- figured out how to get her way with parents and teachers, or
- otherwise integrated control methods into his or her subconscious repertoire at a very early age.