‘Easy!’ you say. ‘An enemy, or someone I didn’t like, would have forced me into doing things that I really didn’t want to.’
But what if the person doing the influence was a friend, or a teacher or a leader that you admired? There may be no physical force or obvious pressure. This person offers choices and you believe that you are making your own decisions, choosing of your own free will. In fact, you are convinced of it.
This is basically how mind control works. You have been tricked into believing that you have been deliberately choosing to make all these changes in your life, in order to learn, develop, evolve, progress, or whatever.