Some abusive parents use money as a substitute for unconditional love, support, and respect. Being with them essentially revolves around them buying us things. There’s something regressive about this, as if they can’t relate to us as adults but only as children who need their parents to give them things or money to get us to love them. Since it’s pleasing to receive gifts and it clearly makes them happy, it can be really difficult to put a stop to it. If we don’t, it leaves us with an empty feeling regarding the relationship.