Emotional abuse can sap a person’s confidence making it difficult for them to form or maintain relationships outside of the relationship with their partner. Victims of emotional abuse struggle to feel worthy or valued. Listed below are some of the signs of emotional abuse.
- Isolating you from seeing friends or family.
- Threats by the perpetrator that they will hurt themselves if you leave.
- Telling you that you are selfish for spending time with others.
- Extreme jealousy (which is different from being in a mutually exclusive or committed relationship).
- Constant demands to prove you have been faithful. For example, having to show phone records, or in depth questioning about past relationships.
- Controlling behaviours, such as needing to respond to messages or calls immediately no matter what you are doing.
- Feeling agitated, fearful or concerned of upsetting your partner.
- A lack of respect for your property, clothes or income.
- A noticeable drop in your self-esteem and confidence.
- Increased use of alcohol or drugs.
- Escapist behaviour – constantly researching holidays, looking for a new job or place to live.
Written by listed counsellor/psychotherapist: Joshua Miles MBACP Integrative Psychotherapist & Bereavement Counsellor