When you hear the word “psychopath”, you might think of Hannibal Lecter or Ted Bundy, but most psychopaths are actually non-violent and non-incarcerated members of society. In fact, there’s a good chance they’ll seem exceptionally altruistic and innocent to the average onlooker.
As described in the Psychopath Free book, psychopaths are first and foremost social predators. With no conscience, they’re able to use charm and manipulation to get what they want from others—whether it be families, friendships, relationships, cults, the workplace, or even politics. The bottom line is, they modify their personalities to become exactly the person they think you want them to be. And they’re good at it.
But when they no longer need anything from you, that’s when the crazy-making behavior begins. Here are some common phrases you’ll hear from a psychopath who’s trying to make you doubt your sanity:
1. “You over-analyze everything.”
2. “I hate drama.”
3. “You’re so sensitive.”
4. “You misunderstood me.”
5. “You’re crazy / bipolar / jealous / bitter / in love with me.”
click here to read the full article:- https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/5-things-sociopaths-and-narcissists-say-to-make-you-feel-crazy.341/
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Dame Esther talked about the importance of the grandchild, grandparent relationship. She shared the results of the survey we had after the features on The One Show we did. Listening once again to them was very moving. The responses that she and I had made very difficult reading.
Vanessa Lloyd Platt talked about the legal perspective.
click here to read the full report:-http://www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk/parliament-listening-grandparents/
After the hustle and bustle of last week, time to review.
I personally am sick and tired of the media, and their ‘experts’ saying stuff that they clearly have absolutely no understanding on.
On Tuesday and Wednesday several TV programmes featured the lobbying of MP’s in London, for legislative support for an ongoing relationships between grandchildren and grandparents.
After telephone calls and endless emails, interviews set up, and then cancelled at the last moment, asked to go to Manchester overnight and then back to London, at the drop of a hat, to a request to say overnight in London to go to a studio the next day whilst just arriving at Victoria, we had no overnight things and our car was parked back in Bristol in a timed car park.
The media seem to think that they are doing us a favour, but they aren’t it is the other way around. They just need someone to fill a slot. Our story forgotten in 30 seconds.
To those of us who carry around the sadness of this ‘living bereavement’ it remains day after day, month after month.
To cap it all they then bring in the ‘experts’ who frankly tell everyone to kiss and make up! Don’t they know that if we had been able to do that we would have, so patronising in the extreme.
Grandparents deserve to be treated with a bit more respect and for those ‘experts’ to actually listen properly.
Then of course we have a variety of lawyers who get called in, some say that it doesn’t have to be expensive to go down the legal route, tell that to the grandparents who spent 30,000 on going to court, or we get the lawyers who say we all need to sit around a round table over a cup of tea, promise to be civil to one another and to just talk it through! And the cost well I believe I heard, that it would be £150 x 6 as you sign up for 6 sessions, and who will pay, well presumably the grandparents.
I am sorry as this is a rant and a shouty blog, not something I usually do but grandparents hopes are always raised when they know that the subject of estrangement and alienation is going to be aired, and then they are left feeling belittled and misunderstood.
The reality for all the ‘experts’ is this, until this happens to them they will never fully understand and the truth is that there is no magic wand with answers.
It would also be helpful if the contact numbers for support were valid, and helplines who are operational.Grandparents need support now this minute not a week on Friday!
click here to go to the site:- http://www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk/media-just-dont-get/
After a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, everything is chaotic. But once the dust settles, you’re likely to find a bunch of lingering psychological / emotional issues that need your attention. A lot of these things feel really uncomfortable and trick you into focusing externally for relief. But they are internal problems now, and even though you didn’t ask for them, you’re the only person who can do the hard work to heal them.
1. Jealousy: After being compared, triangulated, and replaced with other people, it’s completely normal to feel jealous. The default external focus is to criticize the people you were compared with, maybe their looks or abilities. But this doesn’t resolve the inner problem, which is a deep sense of rejection and inadequacy. When we allow ourselves to break and soften, we can nurture the part of ourselves that actually needs help.
2. Resentment: Mostly any spiritual or psychological path will outline the reasons why resentment is unhealthy for the body, mind, and heart. Psychopaths behave in ways that are beyond infuriating. I think it would be bizarre not to carry resentment after an encounter with them. The problem is, resentment (like envy) blocks us from love and attachment. It protects our actual internal hurt and pain with a false externally-focused energy. Mindfulness and spirituality are effective ways to approach resentment. Try regarding your resentment with unconditional love, soothing yourself with a kind, non-judgmental voice that says: “This is allowed”. The more you do this, the easier it will become to release your resentment to that loving voice.
read the complete article here:- https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/6-feelings-that-sociopaths-leave-behind.376/
From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @ https://www.amazon.com Narcissists view the world as their PERSONAL playground to take what they want and they never give back, NOR do they care who or what they desecrate in the process. They view or better yet PORTRAY themselves […]
via The Narcissist has one main goal and that is to drain each and every person that is involved in their lives or use people as objects that serve a purpose. Once you enter into Narcissist-Ville you sign away your right to freedom or individuality, and you better be ready to become an indentured servant to the Narcissist, as well as take your emotional beatings regularly. Your lawful rights are stripped from you and you are now under the rule of a sadistic dictator and there is no way to escape their rule unscathed or undamaged. — After Narcissistic Abuse
A role-reversal relationship is one in which the child is used to meet the parent’s emotional and psychological needs.
In normal and healthy parent-child relationships, the child uses the parent to meet the child’s emotional and psychological needs.
In a normal and healthy parent-child relationship, the parent is said to act as a “regulatory object” for the child.
In a normal and healthy parent-child relationship, when the child becomes upset and distressed (dysregulated), the parent acts in soothing and structuring ways to bring the child back into an emotionally and behaviorally organized and regulated state. The parent acts as a “regulatory object” – also called a “regulatory other” – for the child.
This is normal and healthy. The child is using the parent to meet the child’s needs. The parent is an external “regulatory other” for the child.
In a role-reversal relationship, however, this normal…
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It was only after doing research on emotional abuse that she discovered a name for what she experienced: Coercive control, a pattern of behavior that some people — usually but not always men — employ to dominate their partners. Coercive control describes an ongoing and multipronged strategy, with tactics that include manipulation, humiliation, isolation, financial abuse, stalking, gaslighting and sometimes physical or sexual abuse.
“The number of abusive behaviors don’t matter so much as the degree,” said Dr. Fontes, the author of “Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship.” “One woman told me her husband didn’t want her to sleep on her back. She had to pack the shopping cart a certain way, wear her clothes a certain way, wash herself in the shower in a certain order.”
Coercive control is a hot topic in the UK at present. Dominated and manipulated by the women’s rights lobby groups as being solely about masculine power in a patriarchal society, we are asked to believe that only men coercively control women. In a recent paper proposing to amend Practice Direction 12, statistical evidence from Women’s Aid and other political ideological women’s groups appear to be relied upon and balancing evidence from other groups concerned with childrens needs and the experience of men who suffer violence in the home, appears to have been overlooked. Thus the reality that coercive control is a behaviour which is perpetrated by men AND women, often, in the case of family separation, involving the use of children to further that control, is overlooked.
In cases of parental alienation, where coercive control is the behavioural dynamic underpinning a child’s absolute refusal to countenance a relationship with a…
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