Out of all of the horrible things that I went through, I think that one of the worst was when I was falsely accused of being an unfit parent. My ex-partner didn’t outright accuse me of abuse or neglect but strongly framed me as unstable and hard to live with.
Targeted parents are empathetic and good-hearted to a fault. We know real love, real affection, and secure attachments. Our love is patient and kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs (ok, well maybe just a few). Our love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:4–8a). These are personality traits that the world desperately needs more of, but the only ones who seem to notice our propensity to hold to our positive moral convictions is narcissists.
go to the website to read the complete story:- http://www.targetedparent.com/blog/2017/1/30/reversing-the-silver-bullet
Just had telephone interview today by ITV Breakfast show to do article on PA.
I have put them in touch with Jane Jackson Bristol Grandparents Group as it is too late for me to fly out for tomorrow now, no flights. They have found someone from http://www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk/ group who can get to London tomorrow. Does not matter who does it as long as we get the exposure. Looking forward to tomorrow’s programme.
The programme will go out 10.30 am tomorrow on ITV Breakfast Time
The question for me is why do our family services know so little about Parental Alienation and, when they do know something about it, (which clearly the author of this report does, she described it so perfectly) why do they not want to find out more about it.
Why, for example, did this social worker, on hearing a child say ‘I wish he would just die’ and ‘I would kill him if I could’ not consider that to be concerning?
Why, when a child says that her father should be ‘shot and thrown into the river’ does a social worker not decide that this requires further examination?
Why do social workers and other family workers not realise, when they see a child who is utterly determined to uphold the aligned parent’s perspective – to the point of delusion – go on to conclude that this is just a contact dispute.
What sort of mind block prevents professionals in family services from understanding the reality for alienated children? Politics? Discriminatory practice? Or simple ‘he said/she said’ fatigue?
Whatever it is it is causing our children to become stuck in the most appalling circumstances within the court process, subjected over and over again to professionals who are well meaning but unskilled in the field and to a flimsy court management process which aids and abets institutionalised abuse of children. All of which, frankly, appalls me.
Read the full article at
Taken from Karen Woodhall Press https://karenwoodall.wordpress.com/2014/11/14/alientation-watch-the-lesser-spotted-alienation-aware-professional/
The Vicious Alienator’s Game Plan
Ludwig.F. Lowenstein Ph.D
Southern England Psychological Services
This article describes the motives and demeanour of the vicious and determined alienator in preventing, by whatever means, good contact and a good relationship with the absent, non custodial parent. Two illustrations are provided. One dealing with the father and the other with the mother as the alienator. A two-step approach is presented in how to deal with the implacable hostile and non-cooperative alienator. The importance of the expert witness working together with the court is required, as well as the court acting decisively to limit the “game plan” of the alienator is emphasised.
Illustration 1 – the father as an alienator
Mr Y had been given custody of a son aged 16 and a daughter aged 14 mainly due to the fact that the mother had suffered from depression. Mr Y was a highly controlling individual who did all he could to influence the children against a caring and loving mother. The divorce had been highly acrimonious. The mother Mrs N accepted that she suffered from depression but this was some time ago and was now under control due to the medication she was receiving.
After leaving hospital, she tried unsuccessfully to communicate with her children and to have contact with Mr Y, but he had totally brainwashed the children against the mother stating she was a “crazy, unpredictable and violent woman”. Father also made it clear to the children that should they wish to have contact with their mother they would no longer have a home with him, they must choose one or the other. The children therefore never responded to telephone calls, emails and letters from the mother who pleaded to have the chance to be with them. The father had inculcated a fear of insecurity, if the children wished to have contact with their mother.
read the complete article here:-http://www.parental-alienation.info/publications/85%20-%20The_Vicious_Alienators_Game_Plan.htm
A Lobby Day in parliament is taking place tomorrow (31st January) where campaigners are challenging the government to get more help for grandparents being denied access to their grandchildren.
We’re looking for grandparents who have been personally affected by this issue to talk to us on the BBC Radio London Breakfast Show tomorrow morning (31st January). If they wish to remain anonymous in order to tell their story, that can be arranged. It’d be a short phone interview, just telling your story.
If you’ve been affected by this issue, please get in touch. Thanks.
Jan 30th, 2017 –
Written by: Jane Jackson http://www.bristolgrandparentssupportgroup.co.uk/a-voice-for-our-grandchildren/
Today we will be joining a group of grandparents from all over the UK to lobby our MPs’ at Westminster and to discuss the importance of the relationship between grandchildren and their grandparents.
We will discuss the need for government to remove the ‘right to apply for leave’ when applying for a Child Arrangement Order. At present grandparents have to apply for leave, (just another word for permission) to then apply to the court of a CMO.
Going to court has to be the very last resort, and although it is not something that ever BGSG advise we will and do of course support our grandparents who make that decision.
Those who are able to attend this event tomorrow are doing it for their grandchildren, nothing to do with grandparents rights, but about the rights and well-being of the children.
In recent reports on the happiness of children it clearly states that a very large number of children are unhappy because of bad family relationships.
In may well be that the adults will never see eye to eye, but they all have a responsibility for the happiness and well-being of our young people. Time to put the children first.
Settle our differences away from the children.
1 in 10 children also say that they have no one who cares about them, well I am here and I am going tomorrow to shout out very loud indeed.
WE CARE AND WE ALWAYS WILL.
Natural Born Liars
A insight to what goes on behind closed doors during Parental Alienation
A story based on true facts during a battle which has lasted over 27 years and continues up until this day.
These are not from memories 27 years later, the events were contemporaneously scripted at the time and have been stored for reference.
All names have been changed to protect the identity of the persons involved.
Kram collapsed on the kitchen floor, the garbled words spilling out of his mouth did not make any sense (no change there).
I called the locum doctor for a home visit and after a thorough examination he was admitted to hospital.
Kram wasted no time in telling his parents that he was suffering from a heart attack because I had been pushing him too hard to work and this was the consequence.
Every time I visited at the hospital he would be in tears and distressed and kept repeating over and over again that “he had a grain in his head and it felt like it was growing larger and larger until it would burst”.
I visited my local doctor in the village for reassurance about his condition. The doctor said he could not breach a patients confidentiality but he could confirm that his heart was perfectly healthy and he certainly had not had a heart attack!!
The only grain growing in his head was his own inflated ego, the best thing he could do was to go and join RADA– The Royal Academy of Dramatic Art.
Natural Born Lairs
Today is My daughter’s 19th birthday. I haven’t seen her on her birthday since she turned 7 and Its been 6 years since we were in each other’s lives. So far today I haven’t …
Source: The Positive Path
Can you trust a child protective services social worker to enter your home, or should you invoke your USA 4th Amendment right to privacy in your home when a government worker doesn’t have a warrant? You may think the social worker is friendly, trying to help, when they’re really trying to investigate and get information from you, to use against you in court.
Source: Why the Child Protective Services Social Worker Isn’t Helping You