Posted in Adult Child Estrangement, Deciding to Make Contact with the Estranged Person, Estranged Adult Children - The Heartbreak & Sorrow, Parental Alienation PA, Post Estrangement, Renate Dundys Marrello - Post Estrangement, Silence of Family Estrangement

When the Ties That Bind Unravel

When the Ties That Bind Unravel

“We live in a culture that assumes if there is an estrangement, the parents must have done something really terrible,” said Dr. Coleman, whose book “When Parents Hurt” (William Morrow, 2007) focuses on estrangement. “But this is not a story of adult children cutting off parents who made egregious mistakes. It’s about parents who were good parents, who made mistakes that were certainly within normal limits.”

Dr. Coleman himself experienced several years of estrangement with his adult daughter, with whom he has reconciled. Mending the relationship took time and a persistent effort by Dr. Coleman to stay in contact. It also meant listening to his daughter’s complaints and accepting responsibility for his mistakes. “I tried to really get what her feelings were and tried to make amends and repair,” he said. “Over the course of several years, it came back slowly.”

Therapists for years have listened to patients blame parents for their problems

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