There is absolutely nothing noble or “loving” about allowing a toxic adult child to scapegoat and blame you perpetually for their own socially toxic behavior.
Source: Adult Children with Cluster B personalities socially abuse and scapegoat parents
The narcissistic sociopathic parent is internalized in many of his/her children. The child feels at the mercy of these cruel and unpredictable individuals. Due to this fusion, some children feel like slaves even after they have physically left their homes. Working with the aftermath of growing up with a narcissistic sociopath parent often involves participating in skilled psychotherapy. Others use various healing modalities like gentle hatha yoga, varying forms of meditation, creative pursuits, support groups and friendships.
In his book, Without Conscience, Dr. Robert Hare writes, “Indifference to the welfare of children—their own as well as those of the man or woman they happen to be living with at the time—is a common theme in our files of psychopaths. (He prefers the term ‘psychopaths.’) Psychopaths see children as an inconvenience.”*
This indifference to children’s welfare may take many forms. Sociopaths may leave children—even infants—alone or in the care of unreliable babysitters. They may fail to provide children with food and proper clothing.
Sociopaths who appear to be taking care of their children may still be manipulating the kids for their own purposes. They may:
- Demand certain behavior or accomplishments—for their own image, not for the benefit of the child.
- Inflict emotional abuse, so that children have no concept of normalcy.
- Deliberately try to corrupt a child through inappropriate or dangerous activities, such as pornography.
When sociopaths are involved with children, always be on guard.
Co-parenting with a sociopath
Many sociopaths appear to be outwardly respectable, and are therefore able to convince family courts that they should continue to have parental rights. Courts seem especially reluctant to accept that a mother may be a sociopath and is damaging to the child. If you are co-parenting with a sociopath, expect to be hassled.
For your own mental health, maintain No Contact as best you can. Exchange the bare minimum of information about the child with your ex—preferably by e-mail or Our Family Wizard. If you must deliver or pick up a child for visitation, have someone with you or ring the doorbell and then wait in the car.
Never let the sociopath into your home for any reason. Do not give your ex any information about your life. Resist any baiting. The sociopath will try to undermine and hurt you through the children. Document everything that happens.
Do you know any sociopaths? Chances are, your answer is, “Only on TV.” And chances are, you’re wrong. The media’s portrayal of the sociopath is actually more a caricature of a psychopath. Tony Soprano, Hannibal Lecter, Dexter Morgan. All appear…
Source: The Six Hallmarks of a Sociopath
Sociopathic parents exist and can cause great harm, both emotionally and physically, to their children. Read and see how.
Source: Sociopathic Parents and Their Effects on Children – HealthyPlace
Learn how to shift your consciousness so that triangulation and other narcissistic tactics can no longer affect you.
Source: A Deeper Look At Triangulation
I have had some success in reversing my ex’s obsessive parental alienation.
Let me first start with where I began.
My ex refuses to co-parent, even after 12 years of divorce. He went above and beyond denigration, sabotage, and the abuse of my relationships with my three daughters.
He’d show up on school at nights after 9pm with presents. Most notably he has and continues to disrupt holidays and vacations with texts, emails and phone calls.
It really got out of hand when our daughters started puberty. He manipulated our girls, intimidated mutual friends and neighbors in his campaign to participate in persecuting me professionally and socially. Many felt they had to choose sides. I forgive them.
This resulted in two major personal breakdowns that resulted in losing my job, my good credit rating, and almost my life. There is no greater sorrow then a woman who loses her child. In my case, it was three beautiful young women. The courts were no help. My ex manipulated our girls in so many inappropriate ways…and the court system did nothing to recognize or stop the abusive and inappropriate behavior.
read the complete story and more here:- http://www.parentalalienation.org/success/stories_2.html