In his book, Intrusive Parenting: How Psychological Control Affects Children and Adolescents, published by the American Psychological Association, Brian Barber and his colleague, Elizabeth Harmon, define the psychological control of children by a parent: “Psychological control refers to parental behaviors that are intrusive and manipulative of children’s thoughts, feelings, and attachment to parents.” (Barber & […]
via Parental Psychological Control of Children — Dr Craig Childress: Attachment-Based “Parental Alienation”
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The Grandparents Association is a registered charity working for children since 1987 and dealing with issues such as, grandparents rights, denied contact with a grandchild, kinship care – friends and family care, residence orders, special guardianship orders, parental responsibility, family feud, no contact with a grandchild, legal contact with a grandchild, welfare benefits for grandparents bring up a grandchild, grandparents and adoption, , support groups for grandparents, childcare, grandparent and toddler groups
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My story is an extreme example of Parent Alienation: When I was four years old, my father discovered my mother’s affair and in a fit of rage he through her out of our home. My mother, crushed by the force of my father’s control, did not fight for the custody of my sister and me, but rather slipped away quietly. Traumatized, but afraid to upset my volatile father, I submitted to his plan to erase my mother from my life.
Writing: I am the process of completing my memoir, which is my story of the decades long estrangement from my mother, and how we’ve come to reunite. Excerpts of my memoir have been picked up by Brain, Child and the Huffington Post (among other publications).
Speaking: My story took first place at a 2015 Moth Story Slam in Boston and I went on to retell it at the GrandSLAM in March of 2016.
I also speak at events that serve to bring awareness to the domestic abuse and psychological child abuse that has been coined “parent alienation”.
My heart’s desire is to be a voice for the children, and to empower mothers (and dads) to reclaim the children who love them.
Making my way through a parental alienation forum recently, I came across a very intelligent and well thought out discussion of when a targeted parent should end their legal battles in response to the alienating tactics of the “other parent.”
I have some experience with parental alienation and thought about what the author of the post said. In a few words, her comments can be summed up this way: the “good guys” don’t always win.
It’s unnatural and deeply wounding for an ex, or someone else, to disrupt or destroy a once loving relationship between a parent and a child. If you have been the victim of this, your first thought may have been “it’s impossible, and what I think is happening isn’t really happening.”
The recognition of reality leads to lengthy and sometimes expensive legal battles, emotional, mental, and spiritual exhaustion, and a cycle of recrimination and anger that can go on for years.
In the meantime, your child is caught in the middle of something they are not equipped to understand. All they know is that someone has told them something, and they have to try to figure out what to believe. They have to try to figure out who to believe. They have to figure out how to understand the confusion and conflict expressed between their parents. They have to figure out how to feel safe in the midst of all of this confusion. Children are not equipped to handle and process these types of emotional complexities. If you, as an adult, are having a hard time handling this situation, imagine how overwhelmed your child must feel.
I believe there comes a time when someone has to decide to stop engaging the fight in the courts. Someone has to concede defeat. It sounds wrong and feels horrible. But it may be the only honest and effective way forward.
Acceptance is often the final stage in the grieving process. Continue reading “When to Walk Away”
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