As long as this child within is not allowed to become aware of what happened to him or her, a part of his or her emotional life will remain frozen, and sensitivity to the humiliations of childhood will therefore be dulled.
All appeals to love, solidarity, and compassion will be useless if this crucial prerequisite of sympathy and understanding is missing.
This fact has special implications for trained psychologists, because without empathy they cannot apply their professional knowledge in a beneficial way, regardless of how much time they devote to their patients.
~ Alice Miller
I believe a counsellor needs to be an enlightened witness.
- An empathic person, the client can feel safe enough to ‘trust’, who’s sole purpose is to be there for the ‘clients needs’.
- To help the client understand the evilness of what occurred to them and know the blame and shame of this lies 100% with the abuser…
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