Some children are manipulated into rejecting a parent.
We do not bring you these demands because we think they are “a nice idea”. We bring them to you because our children have been kidnapped from us, they are being psychologically abused, and we expect the proper authorities to protect them and to restore our families. We have found ourselves powerless to protect them ourselves. Only the mental health and legal systems have that power, but they have failed our families in every way. So now we are beginning to band together in order to demand that the mental health system listen to us and help us. There are an estimated 22 million families in the United States alone who are affected by this epidemic, and we intend to recruit every one of them to continuously contact the APA and make demands until action is taken to protect our children and to restore our families.
What is happening to us is not some “new” phenomenon that just surfaced 30 years ago. What is happening to us is a timeless issue that has been happening since families ever existed. There is no need for the APA to conduct extensive research into our situation before they can help our families. The APA has already done such an incredible job of defining pathologies and psychological constructs that there is already a way to diagnose and treat our problem. Our situation is not some form of “new” disorder, our children are not suffering from some form of mental illness, “new” or otherwise. There is no need to define our situation as a “new” syndrome or a “new” pathology.
Defining our situation as some sort of “new” pathology would be like trying to say that a person with athlete’s foot and a cold has some sort of “new” disease, when in fact they just happen to have athlete’s foot and a cold at the same time. Imagine the confusion if people kept insisting that when you have athlete’s foot and a cold at the same time, you actually have some “new” disease that nobody knows how to treat yet. Imagine if doctor’s couldn’t get past the idea that if you have athlete’s foot and a cold, then there was nothing they could do for you because nobody has done any research on this “new disease”, so nobody knows how to diagnose it or treat it. So now hundreds of patients suffer with athlete’s foot and a cold, without treatment, until years and years of research are completed, only to discover that, all they ever really had was athlete’s foot and a cold. This is exactly the situation that our families are in.
Everything that is happening to our families can already be diagnosed and treated using existing and well-established psychological principles and constructs. For all of us, we have found our situations to be composed of the following components:
- Cross-generational coalition
- Narcissistic/borderline personality pathology
- The pathology of splitting
- The pathology of projection
- The psychological decompensation of narcissistic/borderline personalities into delusional beliefs under stress
- Role-reversal relationships
- The attachment system
- Internal working models of attachment (schemas)
- Attachment trauma (disorganized attachment)
- The association of childhood attachment trauma to the formation of narcissistic and borderline personality traits
- The reenactment of attachment trauma patterns
- The misattribution of anxiety
- The misunderstanding of a grief response
Any therapist whose domain of professional competence includes “Attachment Theory”, “Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorders”, and “Family Systems Theory”, should be able to accurately diagnose and treat our families. They should already have everything they need to help us.
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