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FNF Survey of Holiday Parenting Time 2016

Thousands of children are denied a meaningful relationship with their children after separation and this Easter Families Need Fathers draws attention to the failures of compliance and enforcement of family court orders made in children’s interests.

FNF carried out a survey of members and supporters to help gain an understanding of their experience of parenting arrangements post-separation last Christmas. We received 402 responses.

Almost half of respondents’ (46.1%) children did not see their other parent this Christmas.

A notable finding is that half of respondents (50.8%) had a court order in place for contact with their children during this period. However, in 56.6% of cases the order was not obeyed.

Of those who were not seeing their children, almost three-quarters did not even receive a card or gift from their children (72.9%) or have the opportunity to speak to them on the telephone (76.2%).

For many respondents, whether there was a court order in place or not, the difficulties are not new. Almost half (46.6%) did not see their children the year before either, a further quarter (26.0%) had not seen their children in the last 3 – 5 years and over a quarter of respondents (27.4%) had not seen their children at Christmas for over 5 years!

For those whose children were lucky enough to have parenting time with both parents this Christmas/New Year period it was reassuring to find that over two-thirds (68.7%) spent more than a day with their children. A further 7.4% enjoyed a day with their children. However, a quarter (24.0%) spent less than half a day over the entire period with their children and 13.4% had less than three hours of parenting time.

FNF’s CEO, Jerry Karlin, said “These are very dispiriting but not surprising results. Christmas is a sensitive time for children and parents alike. That so many people are reporting that court orders made in the interests of children are not being complied with reflects badly on the family justice system. That so many supporters report that they have not seen their children for many years just adds weight to this”.

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NAPAS

Robert A. Evans, Ph.D. and J. Michael Bone, Ph.D.

Robert A. Evans, Ph.D.

Dr. Evans has a Ph.D. in Educational Psychology and Evaluation. He has over twenty-five years of experience in individual, group & family counseling; psychological & educational evaluations; training & training research. He is an approved sponsor of continuing education for psychologists by the American Psychological Association. In addition, he has been approved by a number of state bar associations to offer continuing legal education to attorneys in the area of Parental Alienation and Parent Alienation Syndrome. As the President and founder of ACFHP, he specializes comprehensive divorce services.

J. Michael Bone, Ph.D.

Based out of central Florida, the primary focus of Dr. Bone’s work in the last twenty or so years is that of high conflict custody disputes within the context of divorce where parental alienation appears to be present. Dr. Bone works with families who are in the process of divorce as well as post divorce families. He also works with parents, grandparents, lawyers and other professionals who may be involved in the case.

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Persuasive Rhetoric: The Tool of Choice for the Alienating Parent

Persuasive Rhetoric refers to using language in an emotionally laden manner with the purpose of convincing the audience of some particular perspective.

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Counsellors need to be ‘enlightened witness’ for the client and not pushing any other agenda.

Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

As long as this child within is not allowed to become aware of what happened to him or her, a part of his or her emotional life will remain frozen, and sensitivity to the humiliations of childhood will therefore be dulled.

All appeals to love, solidarity, and compassion will be useless if this crucial prerequisite of sympathy and understanding is missing.

This fact has special implications for trained psychologists, because without empathy they cannot apply their professional knowledge in a beneficial way, regardless of how much time they devote to their patients.

~ Alice Miller

I believe a counsellor needs to be an enlightened witness.

  • An empathic person, the client can feel safe enough to ‘trust’, who’s sole purpose is to be there for the ‘clients needs’.
  • To help the client understand the evilness of what occurred to them and know the blame and shame of this lies 100% with the abuser…

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I see how talking about abusers with mental health professionals, can be harmful. And why.

Psychologists, counsellors, psychiatrists etc, all have to deal with any clients and any behaviours, in a respectful and what is considered ‘non judgmental’ way. And need to remove their emotions, to deal with worst of behaviours.

I see this can lead to a continual emotional disconnect from the reality of the harm highly abusive people cause to their victims. They choose to see the abuser/perpetrator, in a non emotional way, and that can transfer to how they speak about them, with the victims. Which is really insensitive and lacking in empathy for the victim of the abuse.

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Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

Psychologists, counsellors, psychiatrists etc, all have to deal with any clients and any behaviours, in a respectful and what is considered ‘non judgmental’ way. And need to remove their emotions, to deal with worst of behaviours.

I see this can lead to a continual emotional disconnect from the reality of the harm highly abusive people cause to their victims. They choose to see the abuser/perpetrator, in a non emotional way, and that can transfer to how they speak about them, with the victims. Which is really insensitive and lacking in empathy for the victim of the abuse.

I’ve seen this happen in my own counselling. And I’ve raised it and pointed out the lack of empathy.

I watched a psychologist on a TV program about sex the other day and what is considered normal. One person being interviewed was a paedophile. And what he considers as absolutely appropriate sexual contact…

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Empathy, is the highest form of intelligence, and the least common.

Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

empathy is the highest form of intelligence

I see so clearly how empathy is vital for complex trauma survivors. I see the harm and shame, a lack of empathy inflicts. Whether intentional or not.

I know my capacity for empathy, is unusual. But, I also know complex trauma survivors have already endured so much pain and suffering and more, can push them over the edge. And it does. The suicide rates for complex trauma survivors, are

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Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare is a #1 Amazon Bestseller

Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

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I am speechless and honored to be on this list with my favorite authors. This is my first #1 Amazon Bestselling book and a dream literally come true. Thank you for your encouragement and  support!

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The Secret Language of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths: How Abusers Manipulate Their Victims

Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

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Learning the Secret Language of Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths: How Abusers Manipulate Their Victims by Shahida Arabi

Society assumes that everyone has a conscience and the ability to empathize. In fact, 1 in 25 people in the United States are estimated to be sociopaths, according to Harvard psychologist Martha Stout. Narcissists (those who meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and their like-minded cousins,sociopaths and psychopaths, speak in the language of crazymaking, of projection, of word salad, of gaslighting and of pathological envy. While I will be focusing on narcissistic abusers in this post, keep in mind that all three are unable to empathize with others and frequently exploit others for their own agenda. If you encounter someone with narcissistic traits, they could very well fall towards the extreme end of the spectrum and be a sociopath or psychopath.

These pathological individuals walk among us every day in their false masks…

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Child Clinical Psychologists Services

Learning outcomes and objectives

  • To understand the defining features of a social enterprise
  • To have a basic understanding of the options in setting up a social enterprise
  • To learn about examples of social enterprise and how they secured funding
  • To consider the pros and cons of social enterprise compared to other models of service delivery
  • To explore the non-psychology/business skills required to run a successful social enterprise

Facilitators: Dr Miriam Silver CPsychol AFBPsS, Dr Iyabo Fatimilehin Cpsychol AFBPsS & Angela Southall CPsychol

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