If CSAhell.com creates a petition on epetitions.direct.gov.uk, what would you like us to request changed?
- Means testing for PWC and NRP
- Removal of financial incentive for PWC to reduce contact
- PWCs who refuse contact to have their CSA and Child Benefit stopped
- Child Benefit paid to BOTH parents, 50/50
- Abolition of Child Benefit
- CSA not to count Child Benefit, Pensions and Disability Allowance as income
Cognitive dissonance is a psychological term describing the uncomfortable tension that may result from having two conflicting thoughts at the same time, or from engaging in behavior that conflicts with one’s beliefs, or from experiencing apparently conflicting phenomena.
In simple terms, it can be the filtering of information that conflicts with what you already believe, in an effort to ignore that information and reinforce your beliefs.
In detailed terms, it is the perception of incompatibility between two cognitions, where “cognition” is defined as any element of knowledge, including attitude, emotion, belief, or behavior.
The theory of cognitive dissonance states that contradicting cognitions serve as a driving force that compels the mind to acquire or invent new thoughts or beliefs, or to modify existing beliefs, so as to reduce the amount of dissonance (conflict) between cognitions.
Experiments have attempted to quantify this hypothetical drive.
Some of these have examined how beliefs often change to match behavior when beliefs and behavior are in conflict.
Which Political Party will get the 4,000,000 votes that will be available from marginalised Fathers, their Parents, their Friends and Siblings, plus the Children that will be able to vote as young Adults that were victims of Parental Alienation, all because of biased Divorce Proceedings. What impact will these votes have on marginal seats?
From at least 2010, all Divorce Proceedings will be revisited, if requested, and the denial of punitive action against parents that practice Parental Alienation, both fathers and mothers, will be addressed by sensible, mature and common sense people helping with equal voices as adjudicators. The primary function is to seek and revise the principles of justice, not legal arguments that have been based on outdated Attachment Theories, mother focused biases and the denial of fair hearings for both fathers and mothers. Men are perfectly capable of looking after children for the same reasons as a woman can look after children, any argument against this is Sex Discrimination.
Positive Praise for Dana Laquidara a child victim of psychological abuse called Parental Alienation/Custodial Interference. Just amazing and supportive. She spent over 2 hours speaking to parents and answering their questions at the CT PASI conference on August 20, 2015. She is articulate, intelligent and compassionate. She made a tremendous difference for the many parents who attended. This is Part 1 of the conference.
On December 29, 2013, Chris Mackney sat in his parked car, put a rifle underneath his chin, and blew his head off. It was the end of a long and tortuous process where he was legally bullied to death by the divorce and criminal court system. His story didn’t start or end there. It started in Texas when a man named Sam Degelia, Jr. was murdered. It ended when his ex-wife attempted to copyright and remove all his writings after his death from the internet. Now, the story behind the suicide note read by millions will finally be told.
What happens when a mother divorces her abusive husband? “Motherless America: Confronting Welfare’s Fatherhood Custody Program” six memoir chapters answer the question in a raw tale of corruption and cover-up. Three protagonists, a lawyer, a psychologist and a judge, collude to eliminate mother from the children’s lives by calling her mentally ill, jailing, depriving her of financial resources and the ability to educate and improve herself. Under dire circumstances, Doreen plows forward, learns the law, only to discover and investigate the government program that funds father’s abuse. Six memoir chapters humanize by using real life to demonstrate problems, showing how policy affects lives. It is not common knowledge that our government finances a family court industry that mandates abusive fathers over protecting women and children. Motherless America shines a light on a government program designed to give fathers control of children by way of family court. Six memoir chapters with four research chapters that inform readers of the nature of abuse and how it is processed by the family court industry; who invented the government program to make sure men control the family even after divorce; occupations that administer the program; and government funding and program design. The book concludes with a chapter that lists problems and offers solutions.
There comes a point when silence is no longer an option. If it could happen to us, it could happen to anyone. In a country where most people believe in “family values”, fit and loving Parents are erased from their children’s lives, for huge profit every day. If we really care about our children, we will care about Motherless-ness, as well as Fatherless-ness in America. With the media fixation on “Father’s Rights”, thousands of attorneys “cashing in” on the rampant misuse of Federal Fatherhood Initiative Funding, and a system with no oversight that rewards itself by creating and perpetuating conflict in favor of the wealthier parent, the time has long passed where a child could be guaranteed his or her Mom, no matter how fit, loving or involved in parenting from birth. And certainly, there are many children deprived of fit and loving Fathers. In this country convicted felons have more parental rights than many good Moms and Dads whose only crime was that of being the poorer of the two parents.
Source: A MOTHER’S HEART SONGS UNSILENCED
We all wear different lenses. As someone recently introduced to contact lenses the imagery seems perfect to me when thinking about parental alienation. Through the lens of my glasses the world looks one way, through the contact lens the world looks a whole lot different, sharper, more delineated. Perhaps we could devise a contact lens for those practitioners working with alienated families, it would bring everything into sharper focus and allow us to do what we know is necessary on a wider scale to help them.
Source: The mystery of meaning in parental alienation