KASYN: WITH ME IS A HOME Please love them, and forgive them, cause their day will come. Hardest thing I have done was write 2 you, I must have started a hundred times. The last night not on a computer or phone I picked up a pencil and old envelope, I just started writing and…
We are doing some key work in the UK at the moment with some ground breaking results. Using our multi model intervention which combines education, therapy, protective separation (as per Craig Childress) and parenting co-ordination. We are evaluating this work for publication to demonstrate that enlightened witnessing as part of the overall input we offer is a valuable part of the process of change. Working in London with people who really understand the issues, views from the inside of the war zone will be available as public judgements and evaluated interventions. Enlightened witnessing in the UK which brings us right into line with international work on PA and which lays out the path for the right way to treat the problem for decades to come.
I just wanted to share with you the fact that our first seminar of the year with No 5 Chambers in London is full. Tonight we will be delivering a presentation on working with the alienated child, based upon our work with families and a number of cases recently in which we have had key successes in helping children.There are a number of others planned in Birmingham and Milton Keynes with No 5 and we are also working with other leading chambers to develop our multi model intervention and build the evidence base we have already achieved. Several key partnerships are assisting us in this process. The evidence is that parental alienation in the UK is starting to take centre stage, I am delighted that the work that we have done in bringing successful strategies for change to the court process, are now being promoted by legal people working with families in the UK. We have a busy year ahead of us.More news on all this work shortly.
Source: Parental Alienation Awareness
Those of us who do this work must be prepared to face the cross fire of the psychological war zone we work in, dodging bullets which come from all sides in an effort to stop us. This is not easy work but the knowledge of the miracle which occurs when the child is finally free is what keeps us going.
As we move into 2016, I encourage the following steps to cultivate a contented New Year.
1. Acknowledge all the qualities you possess, your relationships, and experiences from the last year you are bringing with you into the New Year
When the New Year arrives, you don’t become a NEW you. You are the same person, but you have an opportunity for change and growth. You are bringing your compassion and your resiliency. You may bring your inner critic, your wisdom of the mind, body, and heart, and even your resistance to change. Make a list of what you are bringing with you.
2. Reflect on what you are grateful for
I notice for myself that when I dream of living a different life than what I am living, wanting something else, someone else, striving for something that isn’t right here, I suffer and I am not content with what I have. I take a lot of comfort in knowing how the simple act of bringing gratitude to the moment I am in shifts my mind from a sense of lack to contentment. If I can be happy now, under these circumstances and conditions (which are always changing and different than I sometimes wish them to be) then I can be happy anywhere, at any time. Allow yourself to feel the abundance in your life and then see how this impacts your hopes and wishes for the New Year.
I feel grateful for:
- my health
- my professional opportunities
- my friends and family
- living in a place where I can access nature easily
- my meditation practice
3. Cultivate an intention vs. a goal
In the New Year, we often set very specific goals with a short timeline. This creates a feeling of striving for the unachievable and instead of succeeding, we fail. Meaningful change happens on a continuum over time.
An intention is something we build and cultivate over time. It grows by watering it with attention, patience, and wise effort. A goal tends to have a specific result and is time oriented.
Goal Example: I must find the love of my life in the next two months.
Intention Example: My intention is to cultivate more love in my life. I know that by aligning my actions with this intention, I will be more loving and will attract more love in my life.
4. Share your intention with friends, family, and your greater community
When we share what we want in life and are witnessed in this, we have more power to manifest our greater potential. Here are some intentions I have heard this year.
- I want to cultivate more compassion toward myself and others.
- I want to become more generous.
- I want to develop more patience.
- I want to feel more proud of the person I am.
- I want to feel more comfortable with uncertainty.
5. Identify what actions are in alignment with this intention
Using the example above, if I am committed to bringing love into my life I will:
- Spend time nourishing my mind, body, and heart so that I can love all parts of myself.
- I will choose love over fear and dare to trust.
- I give the benefit of the doubt to other person and trust in their goodness.
- I will be more open to new people, no matter how they appear in my life.
- I will share with those around me, my intention for love in my life.
6. Be 100% committed to your intention for change
With repeated effort and staying true to your intention you will create what you seek. Be open to the surprise of how and when it occurs.
7. Review your progress over the year
I have been setting intentions for my life for several years and I find that checking in on my progress 3 times a year is really helpful. Identify a time when you will reflect on your progress with kindness and acceptance. Compassion vs. criticism is the greatest motivator toward change.
8. Let go so that you can bring in the new
In order to grow something new in your life you must make space for it. For example, if you are cultivating more patience then you must start to let go of impatience. By letting go of a certain way of being or a pattern in your life, you can manifest something different.
What do you want to let go of in 2015?
What do you want to bring in?
May your New Year be full of light, love, and peace. If you want to cultivate greater mindfulness and well-being, sign up for the free Mindful Training workbook.
read the full article here http://www.mindful.org/cultivate-what-you-want-by-loving-what-you-have/
What do Hell and parental alienation have in common? Their both pure evil and punish their victims with torment and and deep pains.
My name is Jason and I am doing my best at surviving child abuse while dealing with parental alienation. This is my diary. This is not a dark fantasy or horror, this is real life. I’m not alone, my pain and tears have many names.
Have you ever wondered what living in Hell is like? Read this short diary from a 16 year old based on a true story. Parental alienation is something not many hear about, but most are affected by at some point in their life. Child custody issues is where you will find most of the narcissistic parental alienators, but it happens in even the most “stable” of situations with a happy family. Surviving parental alienation syndrome for a child is surviving child abuse. Until you can end the alienation, lies, and deception you will continue to die a bit each and everyday.
Do I survive parental alienation? Is surviving this form of child abuse something I can do?
Grab your copy today and become aware of the ramifications entire families face daily. Will I make it through? Is stepparenting something Greg can do? If you can make it to the end of the book without shedding a tea I guess you’ll find out
You managed to survive and then escape an abuser. It’s time to rebuild your life, and that’s already hard enough. But now your children are angry, disrespectful, even contemptuous towards you. They seem to have forgotten who you are. If you don’t understand what happened or know what to do about it, you can wind up depressed, angry, and completely ineffective as a mother.
That’s Maternal Alienation. It’s more than a child’s period of adolescent rebellion, and far more than a time of difficult readjustment after divorce: What we’re discussing here is your damaged relationship with your children, who grew up witnessing you be abused – and now that it’s over, they’ve turned away from you. The pain and the loneliness can impact your life to the point where you lose yourself, because you aren’t operating from a position of strength and dignity.
THE ALIENATED MOTHER is a coaching series within a handbook, designed to help you find your way to live a meaningful life in spite of the pain of being alienated from your children. After all, you still have a job to do as their mother, and it’s the same job you always had: Loving them, teaching them, and living the example you want them to follow.
NLP:Neuro-Linguistic Programming Techniques For Changing Anything In Your Life Fast is a phenomenal little ebook that I enjoyed reading on my Kindle this past weekend. Michael Wright has written an informative book for anyone who wants to further
learn more about the topic of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
What is NLP? Neuro-Linguistic-Programming is an approach to personal development, communication, and psychotherapy.
Neuro – Stands for our neurological system- This system processes hearing, seeing, tasting, feeling and smelling.
Linguistic – Stands for the language you use to give meaning to your experiences and how you pass on that experience to yourself and others.
Programming – Is the process of coding exceptional talent. It is also called modelling. It involves replicating the same pattern of language you use, thinking patterns and behavior to attain the specific result.