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10 Lessons learned from Parental Alienation

1. Dont marry a lair, thief and a cheat!! I was very young only 18 very naive and stupidly mistook love for pure narcissism.

2. Do not ever allow a residence order if you have married a narcissistic  type of personality. If they have lied and cheated on you within the marriage or relationship they are not going to be FAIR when it comes to the children. They will use and abuse. Remember a narcissist is only interested in themselves.

  1. Get yourself and your children away from the environment asap it is an extremely unhealthy situation for children of any age. I did not, I was trying very hard to keep the family together and exposed them to the horrors of Divorce Poison.

  2. If you find yourself without your children, once you get over the initial shock, put all that energy and anger into something positive. Turn the anger from a negative into a positive. Its amazing what you can achieve!!!

  3. My children have been taught by my ex over the years to respect money – not people Do not try to buy them – they will be happy to go along with it. I was told by my ex many years ago that everyone has a price. I DO NOT, but children and teenagers are easily persuaded when it comes to gifts and money!!!

6.If you have not seen your children for some time they will become more and more like your partner. Do not expect those innocent children to be the same as when you were altogether.They will have learnt behaviours you may not agree with. Accept the change even if you don’t like it!!

7.You cannot live through your children, create your new individual live. It was going to happen at some stage, its has just happened sooner rather than later.

8.Take up new hobbies, do all those things you have always wanted to do. Spend your hard-earned cash on yourself for a change. Indulge yourself, enjoy it, don’t feel guilty – you have tried your best.

9.Look at all the good things you have in your life,partner, job, parents, brother and sisters, nephews, nieces, health, home and more. Be grateful for what you do have – not what you don’t have.

  1. Get out there, live life to the full – learn to trust again – you may get lucky and they may come back to you one day.x



Currently studying Psychotherapy , Cognitive psychology, Hypnotherapy. Qualified NLP practitioner and CBT therapist. REIKI Master. I believe in truth, honesty and integrity! ≧◔◡◔≦

14 thoughts on “10 Lessons learned from Parental Alienation

  1. Interesting post….although Phill I have to say some of these do not work for most people. Especially #4, I don’t know any parent who after the ‘initial shock’ was positive. All of their thoughts and emotions are on the children, fighting through the courts, hemorrhaging money to fight for the children and so on. And #8, take up a new hobby? Once again, the alienated parents ‘hobby’ is to try and get their children back. Just my thoughts.


    1. Hi Tela, thanks for your comments, I will take a look at your site. These are just a few of the things I have done to cope with my situation. Obviously it has taken some time for me to reach this stage as my alienation has been ongoing for over 24 years. My post was aimed at the parents of adult children who alienate. Would you mind me sharing some of your posts?


  2. Hi Linda~thank you for replying to my comment. Realizing it has been 24 years like you said, I now see how the 2 suggestions do work for you. I was reading this as someone who is just going through this, or has within the last 5+ years or so. I will be reading more of your blog today as it is always wonderful to read through another’s experiences/suggestions and so on.


    1. Thanks for the reblog – just noticed the spelling error – the more we spread the word, the more aware we are. Knowledge is a valuable thing.Please feel free to submitt any articles to me site for reblogging. Since February this year we have over 120 members in the group on Facebook from all over the world.


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