People use children as pawns when they are angry about something. A parent will create a situation that withholds affection from the child with another person. Child alienation is considered child abuse. Child alienation is always used as a control tactic to hurt someone else. Children who are used as pawns, always grow up to resent their parent who did it. Child alienation not only happens in divorces with parents, but also when the child is withheld from grandparents and other relatives.