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You Can’t “Fix” a Psychopath

Good resource for PAS

Phoenix Rising

Hammer and nails by Hans Godo Frabel

Codependents take note: You can’t fix a psychopath; you can’t fix a sociopath. You can’t fix a narcissist. You can’t fix anyone with cluster  B personality disorder for the following reasons:

Those with antisocial personality disorders (psychopaths are a sub category of ASPD, there is strong evidence they were born that way. Front lobe differences. Communication differences within the brain.

For narcissists, either they were born that way or their condition is a result of childhood neglect or abuse. In essence, their brains were warped as young child. They are so ego centric and needy due to this abuse or neglect that they put themselves first. They cannot stop doing this.

No matter how patient you are with them, no matter how good you are or how much you love them, they will not change for you. They will not change because they cannot change.

Unlike other forms…

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PARENTAL ALIENATION IS ANOTHER FORM OF CHILD ABUSE

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The healing power of telling your story.

I started to right a book many years ago but the emotional pain of going through it all again stopped me in my tracks. It will give my children an opportunity to read my side of the story as they have had their memory banks totally erased since the ages of 11 and 13. It wont change anything but I do not believe in staying silent and pretending it has not happened. I am in a good emotional place now to be able to continue with the book with humour and forgiveness which will make for much easier reading.

The Long Term Effects of Parental Alienation

Because telling your story—while being witnessed with loving attention by others who care—may be the most powerful medicine on earth. Each us is a constantly unfolding narrative, a hero in a novel no one else can write. And yet so many of us leave our stories untold, our songs unsung—and when this happens, we wind up feeling lonely, listless, out of touch with our life’s purpose, plagued with a chronic sense that something is out of alignment. We may even wind up feeling unworthy, unloved, or sick.

Every time you tell your story and someone else who cares bears witness to it, you turn off the body’s stress responses, flipping off toxic stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine and flipping on relaxation responses that release healing hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, nitric oxide, and endorphins. Not only does this turn on the body’s innate self-repair mechanisms and function as preventative medicine—or…

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Family law – equal parenting

Responsible department: Ministry of Justice

The interests of a Child are paramount, & Article 9 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child states: “Parties shall respect the right of the child who is separated from one or both parents to maintain personal relations and direct contact with both parents on a regular basis”. Evidence presented to the UN by Nancy Faulkner Ph.D simply states that “Parental Child Abduction is Child Abuse”, “#Parental #Alienation” is viewed in the same strong terms by the UN as a form of Child Abuse – UK Law must recognise Parental Child Abduction & Alienation does not necessarily require a Child to be removed from the UK, or even a specific legal jurisdiction within the UK.

The UK signed the Convention on the Rights of a Child in 1992.

http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/59827

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PAS to be recognised officially as a medical ‘disease’ or a definable ‘syndrome’ in UK Law

Please sign the e- petition or create a new one to STOP Parental Alienation, unfortunately I cant sign being a French resident.

Please forward these details to as many people as possible who have been affected by Parental Alienation

#Parental #Alienation is a subtle manipulation of the children by one parent who, for their own ends, poisons the children’s minds against the other parent. 24% of UK children have no contact with one of their parents and the primary cause is parental alienation by the resident parent.

http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/69126

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Sign the e-petition -Parental Alienation – closes 17/02/2015

Parental Alienation. To extend the cross-government definition of Domestic Violence and Abuse to include #Parental #Alienation.

click below to sign the petition.

http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/60995

Responsible department: Ministry of Justice

#Parental #Alienation is a phenomenon which occurs after parents separate; the children, under the influence of the parent they reside with, refuse to have any more to do with the other parent.

It is a subtle manipulation of the children by one parent who, for their own ends, poisons the children’s minds against the other parent. 24% of UK children have no contact with one of their parents and the primary cause is parental alienation by the resident parent. The #alienated #parent loses interest in life, and sometimes commits suicide. The rate of suicide among men is 3 times higher than among women, and parental alienation is a principal cause of this higher rate.

Including #parental #alienation in the definition of domestic violence and abuse is a first step towards criminalising this behaviour.

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Squaring the Circle: Contact Denial as Coercive Control?

What do you do if you are denied any contact details? Address, phone number, email, facebook etc?

Karen Woodall

Since Theresa May’s announcement that men who shout at their wives could face up to 14 years in prison, the issue of coercive control has been in the media.  Launched by a plethora of largely meaningless headlines, the idea that coercive control is a new offence which tightens the net around nasty men, protecting feeble victim women has been on our front pages recently.

Interpreted by women’s groups as being behaviour designed to control women’s freedoms, actually coercive control is defined as follows

Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.

Which pretty much makes this a gender neutral piece of legislation, meaning that it covers the behaviours of both men AND women.  The problem of course is, that any piece of…

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My History with Parental Alienation

” I’ve only recently learned about Parental Alienation. I only wish I would have known more about it earlier in the process. ” – read on. …..

Living Life Better Blog

I lived with my ex for 14 years and had two beautiful children with her.  To keep the relationship going, I subscribed to her views on religion, politics, and pretty much everything.  I basically tried to be the person she wanted to be with instead of the person I am.  This meant excluding my birth family from my life. After 14 years, it became too much and I cracked. I took the family van for a week and went to see my parents for the first time since we were married.  My children were 7 and 5 at the time.  By the time I got back home from my trip, she had packed up and left for her own parents with the children.  That was the last time I’ve seen them in almost 9 years.

She took my daughter to the doctor for an examination claiming sexual abuse and made…

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An alienated parent inspired

An alienated parent inspired

I had a moment of inspiration last week after 25 years of soul searching.

I am currently reading a book by Neale Donald Walsch called “What GOD said”. I have read many of his books and they have helped me reach where I am today. There is a passage in the book that asks you to think of a question where you have been searching for an answer for a very long time. Well you can guess what my question was

“Why is this happening to me and how do I deal with it in the long term”?

The writer of the book suggested that you ask yourself the question with a honest open non judgemental mind and the answer will come to you before you have even had chance to put the question down on paper. Sure enough, it happened, just like Neale Donald Walsch said, instant!!!

My answer was :

Your children love you and always will!!!

They are unfortunate enough to have been caught up in their father’s drama and Narcissic world.

They are not strong enough to make their own decisions about what they want to do,

they can do nothing, they don’t know how to??

Sit back and be happy in the knowledge that they love you in their own way and always will and be grateful for that. ……….

It is a good enough answer for me and I feel relief, gratitude and acceptance that after all the reading and research and finally asking myself the question that I had the answer within myself all the time.

It just took a little time for it to come to me! hallelujah

Love Yourself