I have previously explained some of the forms that the smear campaign takes and also why they are so effective. Now I turn to the six reasons why they affect somebody like you so much. Smear campaigns are a constant in the arsenal of the narcissist. Effective, utilised through word of mouth and with the capacity to envelop several people at once who in turn perpetuate the smear, the smear campaign is a favoured manipulation of our kind. Here are six reasons why they affect you so much. Continue reading “THE SMEARING OF THE EMPATH”
Although psychological therapies generally fall into the categories above, there are also a number of other specific therapies too.
Humanistic therapies focus on self-development, growth and responsibilities. They seek to help individuals recognise their strengths, creativity and choice in the ‘here and now’.
Psychoanalytical and psychodynamic therapies are based on an individual’s unconscious thoughts and perceptions that have developed throughout their childhood, and how these affect their current behaviour and thoughts.
Behavioural therapies are based on the way you think (cognitive) and/or the way you behave. These therapies recognise that it is possible to change, or recondition, our thoughts or behaviour to overcome specific problems.
I was giving serious thought to these questions when I came upon Katharina Rutschky’s Schwarze Pädagogik (Black Pedagogy), a collection of excerpts from books on child-rearing, published in Germany in 1977. These texts describe all the techniques, which I refer to in this book as “poisonous pedagogy,” that are used to condition a child at an early age not to become aware of what is really being done to him or her; they offer clear corroboration on a concrete level of the conjectural reconstructions I have arrived at in the long course of my analytic work. This gave me the idea of juxtaposing certain passages from this excellent but very lengthy book so that with their help readers can answer for themselves and on their own personal terms the following questions I shall be raising: How were other parents brought up? How were they permitted — even forced — to treat us? How could we, as young children, have become aware of this? How could we have treated our own children differently? Can this vicious circle ever be broken? And finally, is our guilt any less if we shut our eyes to the situation? Continue reading “Breeding Grounds of Hatred”
In 1943, Himmler gave his famous Posen Address, in which he, in the name of the German people, expressed his appreciation to the SS group leaders for their role in the extermination of the Jews. I shall quote here the part of his speech that finally enabled me, in 1979, to comprehend something for which I had been vainly seeking a psychological explanation for thirty years: Continue reading “SPLITTING OFF AND PROJECTION”
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is joyously inspirational Spiritual book that explores the subject of codependence not only on personal and interpersonal levels but also from a cosmic perspective. The author explains that codependency is an ego defense system adapted in early childhood – that we learn how to relate to self, life, and other people in early childhood from people who were wounded in their childhood. Here are several quotes from the book: “This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships – of relationships that do not work to meet our needs. That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general. The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life – with being human. It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings.” “Codependence is an emotional and behavioral defense system which was adopted by our egos in order to meet our need to survive as a child. Because we had no tools for reprogramming our egos and healing our emotional wounds (culturally approved grieving, training and initiation rites, healthy role models, etc.), the effect is that as an adult we keep reacting to the programming of our childhood and do not get our needs met – our emotional, mental, Spiritual, or physical needs. Codependence allows us to survive physically but causes us to feel empty and dead inside. Codependence is a defense system that causes us to wound ourselves.” This book presents a set of beliefs about the meaning and purpose of life from a Cosmic Perspective that combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles, Ancient Metaphysical Truths, and Native American Spirituality with quantum physics and molecular biology. It explains why a New Age has dawned in human consciousness on planet Earth and explores subjects that include the Bible and Buddha, Jesus and Christ Consciousness. The author’s personal Spiritual beliefs – which embrace both Christ Consciousness and Goddess Energy – is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience that is unfolding perfectly from a Cosmic perspective. He considers spirituality to be a word that describes one’s relationship with life – and anyone, regardless of religious/spiritual belief or lack of it (who is not completely closed minded), can apply the approach he shares in his book to help them transform their experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey. This is a life-changing, life-affirming book. Continue reading “Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls”
Psychological studies on narcissism have now divided narcissists into two types – cerebral and somatic.
Cerebral narcissists use their brain and intelligence to impress those around them, whilstsomatic narcissists use their body (“soma” comes from ancient Greek and means ‘body’).
- Uses their mind to prove their uniqueness
- Highly intelligent
- Huge ego
- Grandiose achievements
- Holds a position of power and authority
- No interest in sex
- Uses their body to prove their uniqueness
- Obsessed with looking good
- Always looks immaculately dressed
- May have cosmetic surgery
- Embarks on intense fitness regimes
- Extremely active sexually
Continue reading “What is a cerebral or a somatic narcissist?”