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Parental alienation, one year on. What have I learnt? 

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It is now a year since I have had any contact with my three beautiful young children.

My ex continues to deny me any contact with them.  My ex continues to take advantage of a flawed system. A system that enables her to ignore and breach court orders for contact and engagement in interventions, with no legal consequence.

I do not claim to be an expert in parental alienation. My story is no worse than any other of the incalculable number of alienated out there.

The following is certainly not intended to be viewed as some kind of checklist to battle parental alienation.

I have simply reflected on the last year and compiled a list of what I have learnt during the last twelve months.

  • Normalising the sense of sadness and low mood one will invariably experience as an alienated parent is okay to do.
  • Allowing this sadness and low…

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Emotional Trauma

Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience.

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Recovering from Trauma

Not everyone who endures a traumatic experience is scarred by it; the human psyche has a tremendous capacity for recovery and even growth. Recovering from a traumatic experience requires that the painful emotions be thoroughly processed. Trauma feelings can not be repressed or forgotten. If they are not dealt with directly, the distressing feelings and troubling events replay over and over in the course of a lifetime, creating a condition known as post-traumatic stress disorder.

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Let Go of Rejection

  1. Rejection actually activates the same pathways in your brain as physical pain, which is one reason why it hurts so much. The feeling of rejection toys with your innate need to belong, and is so distressing that it interferes with your ability to think, recall memories and make decisions. The sooner you let go of painful rejections, the better off your mental health will be.

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5 Tips for Healing Emotional Pain

  1. Let Go of Rejection. Rejection actually activates the same pathways in your brain as physical pain, which is one reason why it hurts so much. …
  2. Avoid Ruminating. …
  3. Turn Failure Into Something Positive. …
  4. Make Sure Guilt Remains a Useful Emotion. …
  5. Use Self-Affirmations if You Have Low Self-Esteem.

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Help You get your Life Back

Life has a way of taking over. It seems to run on auto-pilot especially when we are overwhelmed, in over our heads, or simply worn out from all that life is throwing our way. After a while of trying to keep all the balls in the air, we stop paying attention and simply start reacting. Amidst all the chaos, we know something has to change, but we don’t know what or how.

Experiment and slowly edit out the digital distractions:

  • Turn off all phone notifications. All of them.
  • Understand how distracting your devices really are. Use Checky, the app that tells you how many times a day you check your phone or Moment to find out how much time you and your family spend online and set daily limits.
  • Unplug during certain hours of the day, and for 24 hours a week.
  • Challenge yourself with no email before exercise or screen-free evenings.

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Take Your Life Back When You’re Broken

There’s an old, outdated assumption that time heals all wounds. But I believe this to be untrue. In the words of Dr. Phil, “Time doesn’t change us. It’s what we do with that time that changes us.” We are all more than capable of taking control back into our own hands when life knocks us down.

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Recovery

For those of you who are ready to move on we have introduced a new section to our site

RECOVERY

  • the regaining of or possibility of regaining something lost or taken away
  • restoration or return to health from sickness.
  • restoration or return to any former and better state or condition.

We will be adding more posts to this section over the coming months.

Parents healing from Parental Alienation – assisting you on your journey

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Counselors who work with high conflict divorce cases

Counselors who work with high conflict divorce cases must have a thorough
understanding of the complex dynamics that exist in these cases in order to provide
effective treatment. Multiple counselors will need to be involved to provide
comprehensive treatment, and multidisciplinary collaboration is essential to develop a
strategic family plan to re-establish the parent-child connection (Moore et al., 2012). But,
given the complex nature of these cases, how do counselors provide effective treatment,
collaborate with other professionals, and maintain an allegiance to the client, while
avoiding legal and ethical pitfalls?

How do multiple professionals work together without contaminating the therapeutic process or doing potential harm to the child? Continue reading “Counselors who work with high conflict divorce cases”

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The Parent Trap

LGBTQI parents are uniquely vulnerable to parental alienation.

Source: The Parent Trap