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Do narcissists dislike themselves “deep down inside?”

Narcissism is a personality trait associated with an inflated, grandiose self-concept and a lack of intimacy in interpersonal relationships. A popular assumption is that narcissists’ positive explicit (conscious) self-views mask implicit (nonconscious) self-loathing. This belief is typically traced to psychodynamic theory, especially that of Kohut (1966; Morrison, 1983). Empirically, this view predicts that narcissists will reveal negative self-views when these are measured with unobtrusive instruments–such as the Implicit Association Test (IAT; Greenwald, McGhee, & Schwartz, 1998)–that record people’s automatic, uncontrolled responses. We tested our logic that narcissism correlates positively with implicit agency and negatively or not at all with implicit communion in two studies. Using the IAT words from Jordan et al. (2003), we tested the link between narcissism and implicit self-esteem in a sample of undergraduates. Next, we created separate IATs to measure agentic and communal implicit self-views and tested their associations with narcissism. In sum, it may be imprecise to conceptualize narcissism as a positive explicit self-concept blanketing a negative implicit self-concept. Rather, narcissists exhibit a somewhat imbalanced self at both explicit and implicit levels, with favorable agentic self-views that are not necessarily matched by favorable communal self-views. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2016 APA, all rights reserved)

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Implicit cognition

Implicit cognition refers to unconscious influences such as knowledge, perception, or memory, that influence a person’s behavior, even though they themselves have no conscious awareness whatsoever of those influences. Wikipedia

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Implicit attitude

Implicit attitudes are evaluations that occur without conscious awareness towards an attitude object or the self. These evaluations are generally either favorable or unfavorable. They come about from various influences in the individual experience. Wikipedia Continue reading “Implicit attitude”

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Implicit self-esteem

Implicit self-esteem refers to a person’s disposition to evaluate themselves in a spontaneous, automatic, or unconscious manner. It contrasts with explicit self-esteem, which entails more conscious and reflective self-evaluation. Both explicit and implicit self-esteem are constituents of self-esteem. Wikipedia Continue reading “Implicit self-esteem”

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Evidence that narcissists really do think they’re “all that.”

You probably have a pretty good idea of what a narcissist is. They’re arrogant, self-absorbed, and generally speaking they’re not too pleasant to be around–at least not for long periods of time. If you’re like most people, you probably also assume one additional thing. You probably think that narcissists dislike themselves deep down inside. In other words, narcissism is really just a mask that covers up deeply hidden insecurities and self-loathing.
If you think that this is true, then you’re in good company. This has long been a standard conceptualization of narcissism within the psychological literature. A recent study by Keith Campbell, Jennifer Bosson, Thomas Goheen, Chad Lakey, and Michael Kernis (let’s just call them Campbell et al. to keep things simple), however, challenges this assumption. Continue reading “Evidence that narcissists really do think they’re “all that.””

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The Differences Between Narcissism and High Self-Esteem

Despite the widely held view that narcissists have extremely high self-esteem, a new study shows that the traits of narcissism and high self-esteem are far more distinct and unrelated than conventional wisdom has led us to believe. After reviewing the research literature, investigators from several universities discerned the following differences between narcissists and those with high self-esteem: Narcissists feel superior to others but don’t necessarily like themselves. In fact, narcissists’ feelings about themselves are entirely based on others’ opinions of them. On the contrary, those with high self-esteem don’t think of themselves as superior to others, and in fact, tend to accept themselves regardless of what others think about them. ‘At first blush, narcissism and self-esteem seem one and the same, but they differ in their very nature,’ says lead researcher researcher Eddie Brummelman at the University of Amsterdam (UVA). ‘Narcissists feel superior to others but aren’t

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Attachment in Psychotherapy.

The study of attachment has yielded important discoveries about parent-child relationships, the internal world, and psychopathology. Yet until quite recently, therapists were largely left to draw their own inferences about the clinical applications of this growing body of knowledge.

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Coming to Our Senses Healing Ourselves and the World through Mindfulness. 

The current study tested the degree to which mindfulness in parents was directly and indirectly related to stress levels in children. A community sample of 68 parent-child dyads completed self-report surveys (Children: Mage = 10.70, SD = 2.6; 52% female, 48% male; Parents: Mage = 42.70, SD = 9.6; 72% female, 28% male). Multiple regression analyses revealed that both parent mindfulness and child mindfulness were significantly and negatively related to child stress levels. However, mindfulness in children did not mediate the relationship between mindfulness in parents and stress in children. This study contributes to the emerging literature on the effects of mindful parenting on child wellbeing and provides practical suggestions for how parents and children can increase their mindfulness.


Kabat-Zinn, J. (2005). Coming to Our Senses Healing Ourselves and the World through Mindfulness. New York Hyperion. – References – Scientific Research Publishing

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Sex differences in narcissism

In gender studies, the analysis of gender differences in narcissism shows that male narcissism and female narcissism differ in a number of aspects.

Jeffrey Kluger, in his 2014 book The Narcissist Next Door suggested that our society, still largely patriarchal, is more likely to tolerate male narcissism and aggressiveness than these of females.[1] This assertion was voiced, although without definite proof, by a number of other researchers.

In 2015 a number of media outlets reported[1][2] about a study at the University of Buffalo which analyzed 31 years of data of narcissism research and concluded that men consistently scored higher in the first two of three aspects of the Narcissistic Personality Inventoryleadership/authority, exploitative/entitlement, and grandiose/exhibitionism.[3][4] The team leader of the research, Emily Grijalva, commented that on average this difference is slight (a one-quarter of a standard deviation) and there was almost no difference in the exhibitionism dimension (which covers such aspects as vanity, self-absorption and attention-seeking). She notices that a similar degree of difference is observed for other personality traits, e.g., slightly higher neuroticism for women or slightly higher risk-taking for men.[5] The reasons of reported gender difference were outside the scope of the study, however the authors speculated that it is rooted in historically established social conventions about what is acceptable for a particular gender and what are the traditional social roles for genders.[5]

A number of earlier studies (on smaller scales) reported similar bias.[6] A further indication for the trend was a 2008 finding that the lifetime narcissistic personality disorder is more prevalent for men (7.7%) than for women (4.8%).[7]

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How to talk about your emotions (and why you should be) | CABA – The cha

Reach out

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to a loved one, then talking to someone professional could help. Talking therapies or counselling provide you with a safe space in which to talk through your thoughts and feelings with someone independent and impartial. Counsellors are trained to help you process and explore your feelings and find practical ways of managing them.

Counselling involves you being honest, open and participating in the conversation. Ultimately this is empowering although it can seem daunting at first. But there’s no rush. The number of sessions you have will depend on your individual circumstances, and your counsellor will work with you to find the best path for you.