Long Term Parental Alienation is Irreversible

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Copy of an email recently sent to a specialist dealing with Parental Alienation and Family Estrangement requesting help and advice:-

Background information:-

Normal family with 2 children aged 11 and 13. Many happy family occasions, holidays, family Christmas’s together ect.
I had issues with ex husband and filed for divorce back in 1990.

My daughter came home one day and told she was having a new mother who could cook better than me!!!

The divorce was quick but the arrangements with the children were not dealt with until later on.

Both children lived with me, no financial support, lots or harassment and the usual nasty stuff. Father was not bothered about the children, more interested in the new girlfriend. Kept telling me that everyone had a price tag and that the children could be bought!!! Not sure what he meant until the expensive presents were given to my daughter. She went to live with him and the poisoning started.

He went for a residence order for my daughter as she wanted to live with him as she had just been bought a horse. I could not compete and would not compete.

My son stayed with me and refused to see his father despite my best efforts. My son and daughter did not see each other. I found this as heart-breaking as not seeing her myself as I had always had a very close relationship with my own brother.

Time went by and eventually my son agreed to see his father and he took them away 1 week before Xmas. On their return my son said he wanted to live with his father.

Once the father had my son he went for a residence order for my son which I was told by the courts I could not fight, as it was the children’s wishes.

After the 2 residence orders he went back to court and demanded to live in the family home with the 2 children and refused to sell it and give me a financial settlement.

During all this time the children refused to see me, shouted abuse at me whenever I tried to approach the house, shot at me with an air rifle, pushed me through a glass window on Mothers day.

My ex husband would not even allow me to see them their birthday’s or at Christmas. I wrote many letters and requested photographs which my children never received.

I went to my daughter’s school and was told that they had been told that I had died!!!

I went to my son’s school and was told that my son did not want me to go to the school as it was embarrassing.

I had difficulty obtaining school reports.

I was not told when my children were in hospital, I discovered this through someone I knew locally. When contacting the hospital I was told I could not be given any information as I did not have the residence order.

I did not know that by allowing the residence order I had virtually given up all my rights as a parent.

My ex husband threatened me and my new boyfriend and generally made it impossible to see the children.

By this time the children were so badly damaged I started to back off. My son would spit in my face in the street, called me and my mother disgusting abusive names, cut off all communication with my family, all the usual alienation stuff.

The courts were not interested and the social worker involved was manipulated by the children and their father. I was told years later that the father dated the social worker!!!!

Very lucky I had the support of my family because you soon learn who your friends are in these situations.

The abuse went on for years and years.

I had a new relationship 2 years after the divorce and was fortunate enough to share my husbands children who were very loving and understanding. We lived quite close to my ex and my children, and my new husband and his children had to witness much of the abuse that was thrown my way.

Despite all of this my new husband’s children have managed to survive their parents divorce, so it can work when the parents are sensible and work together.

I have 2 large files with over 8 years of paperwork to support what I have said which my children will read one day. I have been advised to destroy it all as my children will not thank me for reminding them what happened. Others have said keep in case they ask questions so I can give them correct and accurate answers. At the moment I still have the files!!!!
Well 25 years on I have spent 6 weeks with my son, 10 years ago which was short-lived. I have had 9 years with my daughter who now has a little boy of 11 and a granddaughter I have never met. This all came to an abrupt end over 2 years ago and I am now alienated from both daughter and grandson.

I love them both and my grandson very much and I hope there is someone close enough to them both who loves them and cares for them enough to encourage them to seek the help they need in order to try to live a happy and healthy life.

In the meantime I will continue to enjoy my husband’s children and their children. It’s no substitute for my own, but I love them all the same.

response:-

After all this time your children are probably not even aware of what your ex husband is doing. Victims of parental alienation are not aware that they are being mistreated and often cling vehemently to the favored parent, even when that parent’s behavior is harmful to them.

You cannot force an ex-spouse to cease his or her hate campaign. 

Some alienating parents intend to turn the child against the other parent–permantely. They stop at nothing.  One study depicts this unfortunate, but true, reality, “a minority of parents who suffer from personality and mental disorders may ignore the court and spend their waking hours finding ways to exhaust the other parent emotionally and financially”

Without legal intervention to limit an alienating parent’s access to a child and to have the brainwashed child deprogrammed by a specialist, it is unlikely that a child will ever recover from PAS. The tragedy is that they have lost their free will and ability to make rational choices over their lives. They are likely to experience serious psychiatric disorders, have poor social relationships, and of course pass the problem on to their children.

Hate Campaign

And so it goes on 30+ years and still the hate campaign continues.

People are coming forward to let me know that vicious lies and rumours are being told to try and sabotage my business and discredit my reputation.

They know who they are, what a team they must be so seriously emotionally disturbed to carry on for all these years.

Some people just don’t take rejection very well, god help the next boyfriend/girlfriend who dares to break off a relationship with these two!!!

So for the ones who believe any of it, you obviously don’t know me very well and you were never really a friend, and those who remain loyal – Thankyou.

 

Today is about my Brother

We did everything together.

Love him and miss him, would have been his birthday today.

This is what happens when no one listens

Today, at the Ministry for Justice in Brussels, we shared the tragic story of little Archie Spriggs.

The story of parental alienation and false allegations of domestic abuse.

This beautiful little boy was murdered by his abusive mother because NO ONE believed his father when he pleaded with police, social services, medical professionals and little Archie’s school, to help protect him.

This is what the dominant gender biased narrative results in. The ‘all male perpetrator’ falsehood has to STOP right now.

We have to protect ALL victims of domestic abuse, of either gender otherwise we FAIL to fully protect children. That is unforgivable

This story is unforgivable.If you’re a journalist contact me jan@goodeggsafety.com for access to the truth…https://lnkd.in/gT6CFS6W#Battlefortruthhttps://youtu.be/JL7cOdNOey8

A seriously disturbed individual

They have made dozens of false accusutions to the police Bedfordshire Police, Buckinghamshire Police, Hertfordshire Police over the past 5 years.

  • False claims of stalking from every previous lover or boyfriend
  • Claims their Bestie was running a brothel and using drugs
  • Armed Robbery
  • Kidnapping
  • Me kidnapping my grandson
  • Her father kidnapping her daughter
  • Domestic Violence
  • GBH by previous boyfriends


and the list goes on, but I haven’t enough paper.


Photo by Isabella Mendes on Pexels.com

False Reports

If you make a false report, make up a crime or lie to the police you could be charged with wasting police time or even the more serious offence of perverting the course of justice.

  • Why do people make false reports?People can be tempted to make false reports to the police for a number of reasons. It may be to make up financial loss, for insurance purposes, to avoid other criminal offences or even to avoid getting into trouble with their family or loved ones.Examples can include people leaving their vehicles unattended with the keys in the ignition but making a false report as their insurance would not cover them. It can also include children making false reports about crime to avoid getting in trouble with their parents for being late.
  • What could happen to people making false reports? Making a false report could lead to a fine, a conviction for wasting police time or even a prison sentence for the more serious offence of perverting the course of justice.  The offence carries a maximum penalty of six months imprisonment. Less serious cases may result in a fine of £80 for people aged 16 or over and £40 for under people under 16 years old.

Chief Superintendent Richard Liversidge said: “Hoax calls are incredibly frustrating for our call handlers but much more than that they tie up our valuable resources and can ultimately put the lives of other genuine callers at risk by causing a delay in them getting through and subsequently us dispatching officers to them.

“These time-wasting hoax calls waste police time that should be spent helping the vulnerable and dealing with legitimate emergencies where lives or property are at risk of harm.

“Making hoax calls is a serious offence and we will continue to work to prosecute anyone found to be making these type of calls.”

https://www.hemeltoday.co.uk/news/hertfordshire-police-receive-one-hoax-999-call-every-37-seconds-715832

Is it an offence to waste police time?

Wasting police time

Under s 5(2) of the Criminal Law Act 1967 (CLA 1967), it is an offence to cause a wasteful employment of the police by knowingly making a false report – either orally or in writing – to the police or anyone else that:

  • an offence has been committed;
  • there is a real threat to the safety of any persons or property; or
  • they have relevant information concerning some police enquiry.

Proceedings for this offence can be brought only by (or with the consent of) the Director of Public Prosecutions. It is a summary only offence and proceedings must be started within the six-month summary time limit. This is from the date on which the complaint was made, not from when the falseness of the allegation was suspected or uncovered.

Penalty

If you are caught wasting police time you could be jailed for up to six months and/or fined. Instead of taking you to court, the police might issue you with a fixed penalty notice under the Criminal Justice and Police Act 2001 (CJPA 2001). This means you will have to pay a £90 fine but you won’t get a criminal conviction (the details will still go on the police computer though).

Related offences

Perverting the course of justice

If a false report you made has particularly serious consequences, the police could charge you with perverting the course of justice instead, which carries a maximum penalty of life imprisonment. Police are more likely to charge you with this more serious offence, rather than wasting police time if:

  • the false report was motivated by malice;
  • you continued to stick to your false story, even when there were ample opportunities to retract;
  • you falsely accused someone of a crime and they were charged and remanded in custody or tried, convicted and / or sentenced;
  • the person you falsely accused suffered major damage to their reputation;
  • you have a history and/or previous convictions of making false reports.

Wasting police time

Under s 5(2) of the Criminal Law Act 1967 (CLA 1967), it is an offence to cause a wasteful employment of the police by knowingly making a false report – either orally or in writing – to the police or anyone else that:

  • an offence has been committed;
  • there is a real threat to the safety of any persons or property; or
  • they have relevant information concerning some police enquiry.

Proceedings for this offence can be brought only by (or with the consent of) the Director of Public Prosecutions. It is a summary only offence and proceedings must be started within the six-month summary time limit. This is from the date on which the complaint was made, not from when the falseness of the allegation was suspected or uncovered.

Penalty

If you are caught wasting police time you could be jailed for up to six months and/or fined. Instead of taking you to court, the police might issue you with a fixed penalty notice under the Criminal Justice and Police Act 2001 (CJPA 2001). This means you will have to pay a £90 fine but you won’t get a criminal conviction (the details will still go on the police computer though).

Related offences

Perverting the course of justice

If a false report you made has particularly serious consequences, the police could charge you with perverting the course of justice instead, which carries a maximum penalty of life imprisonment. Police are more likely to charge you with this more serious offence, rather than wasting police time if:

  • the false report was motivated by malice;
  • you continued to stick to your false story, even when there were ample opportunities to retract;
  • you falsely accused someone of a crime and they were charged and remanded in custody or tried, convicted and / or sentenced;
  • the person you falsely accused suffered major damage to their reputation;
  • you have a history and/or previous convictions of making false reports.

making false statements to the police

Making a false report could lead to a fine, a conviction for wasting police time or even a prison sentence for the more serious offence of perverting the course of justice. The offence carries a maximum penalty of six months imprisonment.


It is an offence to give false information to the police. Section 5(2) of the Criminal Law Act 1967 provides: … This offence is punishable with up to 6 months imprisonment. Before a person can be prosecuted the consent of the Director of Public Prosecutions (DPP) is required.

What is a false or misleading statement?

A false statement is a statement that is not true. … A lie is a statement that is known to be untrue and is used to mislead. A false statement is a statement that is untrue but not necessarily told to mislead, as a statement given by someone who does not know it is untrue.

What is the maximum penalty for fabricating evidence?

Perjury and fabricating evidence are indictable offences with potential prison terms of up to 14 years, while obstruct justice under 139 (2) of the Criminal Code is an indictable offence with a maximum sentence of imprisonment for 10 years

false accusation is a claim or allegation of wrongdoing that is untrue and/or otherwise unsupported by facts.[1] False accusations are also known as groundless accusations or unfounded accusations or false allegations or false claims

When there is insufficient supporting evidence to determine whether it is true or false, an accusation is described as “unsubstantiated” or “unfounded”. Accusations that are determined to be false based on corroborating evidence can be divided into three categories:[2]

  • A completely false allegation, in that the alleged events did not occur.
  • An allegation that describes events that did occur, but were perpetrated by an individual who is not accused, and in which the accused person is innocent.
  • An allegation that is false, in that it mixes descriptions of events that actually happened with other events that did not occur.

A false allegation can occur as the result of intentional lying on the part of the accuser;[3][4] or unintentionally, due to a confabulation, either arising spontaneously due to mental illness[3] or resulting from deliberate or accidental suggestive questioning, or faulty interviewing techniques.[5] In 1997, researchers Poole and Lindsay suggested that separate labels should be applied to the two concepts, proposing that the term “false allegations” be used specifically when the accuser is aware that they are lying, and “false suspicions” for the wider range of false accusations in which suggestive questioning may have been involved.[6]

When a person is suspected of a wrongdoing for which they are in fact responsible, “false accusation may be used to divert attention from one’s own guilt”.[4] False accusation may also arise in part from the conduct of the accused, particularly where the accused engages in behaviors consistent with having committed the suspected wrongdoing, either unconsciously or for purposes of appearing guilty.[4]

Additionally, once a false accusation has been made – particularly an emotionally laden one – normal human emotional responses to being falsely accused (such as fear, anger, or denial of the accusation) may be misinterpreted as evidence of guilt.[citation needed]

The lengths some people go to to cause trouble

  • wicked
  • bad
  • damaging
  • dangerous
  • evil
  • offensive
  • fatal
  • deadly
  • destructive
  • harmful
  • toxic
  • poisonous
  • malicious
  • malign
  • malignant
  • detrimental
  • hurtful
  • malevolent
  • noxious
  • venomous
  • ruinous
  • baleful
  • deleterious
  • injurious
  • noisome
  • baneful
  • pestilent
  • maleficent

And wasting police time, that’s all I can say!!!!!!!!!

This is what Alienated Adult Children look like BEFORE.

Top right hand corner – my brother and my son.

Photo next to it – my son and daughter together

Bottom left – my mum and my daughter

Top left – My mother, son, daughter and me at Christmas

Third photo bottom – my mum and my son

 

 

Many of you send me messages asking “what happens to older alienated children”?

 

As you can see my family had a great relationship with both my children, (all other photos have been destroyed by my ex partner) these were salvaged from my mothers house.

Its less than a year since my amazing brother who was “my night in shining armour” died tragically, he was only 2 years older than me, it will be his birthday in two days time, and I miss him terribly.

Its not that long ago since my mother died.

I waited and waited for a message, phone call, card or text from my daughter or son.

To this date I have received nothing, not a word of condolence from either of them who are now in their forties. To make matter worse I have been told that my daughter and her father laughed hysterically when they heard my mother had died!!!

This is what happens to teenagers when they are in the hands of the parental alienator.

They will probably do the same if they come across this post.

No Empathy, No Emotion, Uncompassionate.

How sad to live a life of emptiness, devoid of any feelings.

This is what Alienated Adult Children look like.

 

Linda – Always By Your Side

 

Don’t be surprised

Don’t be surprised

when people start

treating you the way

you treat them!!!!!